You Want In I Want Out
Joan Jett and the Blackhearts Lyrics


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Can't stop the fun from raging
Oh 'cause we're in too deep
Can't take a whip and tame it
Oh is the price too steep

I want to make you happy
Won't give myself away
Want me to fake it baby
It's just a game we play

You want in, I want out
That's what love is all about
Full of hope and full of doubt
You want in and baby I want out
You want in and I want out

I've got a heart in danger
Oh 'cause I'm stuck on you
I wish we could start again as strangers
Oh don't know what to do
Don't want to start no trouble
Don't want to go away
Wait too long and the pain is double
They were the ones that paid

You want in, I want out
That's what love is all about
Full of hope and full of doubt
You want in and baby I want out
You want in and I want out

Why do you do it to me
I want to make you happy
Won't give myself away
Want me to fake it baby
It's just a game we play

You want in, I want out
That's what love is all about
Full of hope and full of doubt




You want in and baby I want out
You want in and I want out

Overall Meaning

The lyrics to Joan Jett's "You Want In I Want Out" tell the story of a complicated relationship where one person wants to be in the relationship while the other wants out. The opening lines express a sentiment of unstoppable and wild fun that is happening between the two partners, despite the underlying tension in the relationship. Joan Jett sings of not wanting to be tamed by her partner, and questioning whether the price of being in the relationship is too high.


The chorus of the song is where the title phrase is repeated multiple times, as Jett's character sings about how the relationship is full of hope and doubt. She wants out but the other person wants in, creating a conflicting dynamic that can be seen throughout the entirety of the song. The two partners are stuck in a cycle of wanting different things, with Jett's character wishing she could start over and the other person wanting to stay. There's an expression of feeling trapped throughout the song, as well as the sense that the relationship is causing more pain than happiness.


Overall, "You Want In I Want Out" is a song about the complexities of relationships and the push and pull dynamics that often are present within them. It's also a story about the power dynamics that can happen in relationships and the feeling of wanting to leave but not having the ability to do so, or being trapped in cycles of hurt.


Line by Line Meaning

Can't stop the fun from raging
The excitement and enjoyment is too strong to suppress


Oh 'cause we're in too deep
The situation has gone beyond control


Can't take a whip and tame it
Trying to control the unstoppable


Oh is the price too steep
Is the cost of control too high


I want to make you happy
I desire to bring you joy


Won't give myself away
I won't sacrifice my own happiness


Want me to fake it baby
Do you require me to pretend?


It's just a game we play
The dance between us is just a game


You want in, I want out
You desire involvement, but I wish to leave


That's what love is all about
This push-and-pull is a quintessential aspect of love


Full of hope and full of doubt
It is filled with anticipation and uncertainty


I've got a heart in danger
My heart is at risk of being hurt


Oh 'cause I'm stuck on you
Because I am so attached to you


I wish we could start again as strangers
I wish we could start anew


Oh don't know what to do
I am unsure of how to proceed


Don't want to start no trouble
I don't desire to cause problems


Don't want to go away
I don't want to leave


Wait too long and the pain is double
Delaying the decision will cause more pain in the end


They were the ones that paid
Others have suffered the consequences for similar choices


Why do you do it to me
Why do you treat me this way




Lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group, BMG Rights Management
Written by: DESMOND CHILD, JOAN MARIE JETT

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