09_Afterglow_-_Perfect_Girl
Sarah McLachlan Lyrics


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Am I faithful, am I strong, am I good enough to belong
In your reverie a perfect girl
Your vision of romance is cruel and all along I played the fool
All your expectations bury me

Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
But don't forgo knowing that you're loved no matter what
And everything will come around in time

I own my insecurities, I try to own my destiny
That I can make or break it if I choose
But you take my words and twist them 'round
Til I'm the one who brings you down
Make me feel like I'm the one to blame for all of this...

Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter
But don't forgo knowing that you're loved no matter what
And everything will come around in time

You need everybody with you on your side
Know that I am here for you but I hope in time
You'll find yourself all right alone
You'll find yourself with open arms
You'll find yourself, you'll find yourself in time

The riot in my heart decides to keep me open and alive
I have to take myself away from you
'Cause I can't compete I can't deny there's nothing that I didn't try
How did I go wrong in loving you

Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Give yourself some time to falter




But don't forgo knowing that you're loved no matter what
And everything will come around in time

Overall Meaning

In "Perfect Girl," Sarah McLachlan sings about the struggles of living up to someone else's idea of a perfect partner, and the toll that it takes on one's self-esteem and mental health. The lyrics suggest that the singer has been trying to please their partner, but finds themselves constantly falling short of their expectations. The partner's idealized vision of romance seems to be a burden that the singer cannot bear. They try to own their insecurities and destiny, but their partner twists their words and makes them feel responsible for their own disappointments. The singer eventually realizes that they need to retreat and take care of themselves, even if it means leaving their partner behind. The final stanza suggests that it is possible to find peace and self-love even in the midst of a difficult situation.


Overall, the song touches on themes of self-worth, emotional abuse, and the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. It is a powerful message to anyone who has struggled to please someone else, only to find that they have lost themselves in the process.


Line by Line Meaning

Am I faithful, am I strong, am I good enough to belong
Questioning self-worth and whether it meets expectations for acceptance


In your reverie a perfect girl
To the person, being perceived as an ideal in their dreams


Your vision of romance is cruel and all along I played the fool
The image of love is harsh; and the singer feels foolish for trying to fit it.


All your expectations bury me
The pressure of meeting the other person's ideals becomes suffocating


Don't worry, you will find the answer if you let it go
Relax and the solution will present itself


Give yourself some time to falter
It's okay to stumble and make mistakes.


But don't forgo knowing that you're loved no matter what
Remember that they are still loved for who they are


And everything will come around in time
Things will get better over time


I own my insecurities, I try to own my destiny
Taking responsibility for both one's flaws and path forward


That I can make or break it if I choose
The artist alone can determine their success or failure.


But you take my words and twist them 'round
The other person manipulates and misunderstands what the singer says


Til I'm the one who brings you down
The other person blames the artist for their issues


Make me feel like I'm the one to blame for all of this...
Feeling the weight of the other person's problems on one's shoulders


You need everybody with you on your side
The person has a dependent nature, needing others to support them


Know that I am here for you but I hope in time
The singer supports them but hopes they become independent


You'll find yourself all right alone
Encouragement that they can make it on their own


You'll find yourself with open arms
The artist will welcome them back when they improve


You'll find yourself, you'll find yourself in time
With time they will discover and improve themselves


The riot in my heart decides to keep me open and alive
The singer chooses to remain passionate about life despite struggles


I have to take myself away from you
The artist must distance themselves from the other person


'Cause I can't compete I can't deny there's nothing that I didn't try
Feeling inadequate and seeing no other solution


How did I go wrong in loving you
Reflecting on the missteps during the relationship




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Jaded Hart


on In The Arms Of The Angels

This will surely make you cry! Everyone can identify with this song! Hear it you won't regret it. And maybe you'll remember!

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