There are two artists who have used this name: a modern singer and Steffani… Read Full Bio ↴There are two artists who have used this name: a modern singer and Steffanie Borges, the singer of 1985's Urusei Yatsura theme tunes.

1. ステファニー (aka romanised Stephanie), is a Japanese singer who debuted in 2007 with the single "君がいる限り" and is with Sony Music Japan. She has an Armenian-American father and a Japanese mother, and lived in California until she was 14. When she was in California she sent demo material to music producer Joe Rinoie, who was very impressed with her. Because of this she traveled to Japan in 2002. Currently she is enrolled at Aoyama Gakuin University and studies law. Initially, before she debuted, not even her face was revealed. Reputedly she can sing in five octaves.

Artist Profile
Real Name: Unknown
Birthday: 1987.08.05
Height: 165cm
Blood Type: AB

Discography
Singles:
・「君がいる限り」 - 2007.05.30
・「because of you」 - 2007.08.29
・「Winter Gold」 - 2007.12.12
・「フレンズ」 - 2008.01.30
・「Changin'」 (ステファニー feat. 田中ロウマ) - 2008.07.23
Albums:
・「Stephanie」 - 2008.03.05

Sites: http://Steph.Jp (official - requires Flash)

2. Steffanie Borges is a Japanese-American who also fronted the Japanese metal bands Pink Noise and Show-Ya. Her "Hideaway" album contains both "Born to Be Free" and "Rock the Planet" in English.

LET'S GO!!
ステファニー Lyrics

LET'S GO! LET'S GO!
let's go and celebrate
all night!
HOLD ON! HOLD ON!
hold on till the party ignites!
HEY!!
やりかけの宿題
もうそれどころじゃない
ドキドキ... ワクワク...
夜7時きっかり

この部屋に集合してね
Oh be quiet! バレないように...
ほらほら今日はあの子の
特別CEREBRATION NIGHT
準備はいいかな?
サプライズの時さ
ハイトーンで叫ぼう!
飛び交う喜びを全身で浴びて!
みんなからの君へのプレゼント
最高に最高におめでとう!!
LET'S GO! LET'S GO!
let's go and celebrate
all night!
GET THAT! GET TAHT!
geto the beat into your system,
all right! HEY!!
突然の出来事に
あっけにとられて固まる
姿がかわいいね
みんなのボルテージ
MAXに近づいてる
時計も壊れGIMIね...
ほらほらもっと盛大に
うちらはスリルが大好き
準備はいいかな??
ワイルドに笑い声
投げ合ったりして!
はしゃぎすぎて髪が
みだれまくりだね!
こんな姿で言うのもナンだけど、
本当に本当におめでとう!!
思い返せばイロイロあったね
ボロボロになっても頑張ってたね
今日はそんな君のお祝いだから
いつもより派手に Yeah! Yeah!
LET'S GO! LET'S GO!
let's go and celebrate
all night!
GET THAT! GET TAHT!
geto the beat into your system,
all right!
LET'S GO! LET'S GO!
let's go and celebrate
all night!
GET THAT! GET TAHT!
geto the beat into your system,
all right!
なんだってやればいいさ
どんな時だって
みんなついてるから
遠くを見つめて...
サプライズの時さ
ハイトーンで叫ぼう!
飛び交う喜びを全身で浴びて!
みんなからの君へのプレゼント
最高に最高におめでとう!!
LET'S GO! LET'S GO!
let's go and celebrate
all night!
GET THAT! GET TAHT!
geto the beat into your system,
all right!
LET'S GO! LET'S GO!

Lyrics © O/B/O APRA AMCOS

Written by: STEPHANIE

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Most interesting comments from YouTube:

Leslie Long

@Michaela valek I pray you get out before he eats away at your sense of self and there’s nothing left of you. It’s so bizarre that Narcissists find such joy in the mind fuckery. It’s one thing to accidentally hurt someone, apologize and move on, but in my exp. the Narc is not happy until they’ve met their agenda of ripping their victims to shreds. I can see an actual gleam in his eyes and a grin once I let him get to me.
So, I tell you this because I have been through. I’m so sad he’s stolen 7 yrs of your life. Rule #1, you need a safety plan, for ex. I hid and extra set of car keys in a plant by the front door, so you can flee if you have to. Hopefully, you get on the get gone before it comes to that. any $ (down to pennies) you get your hands on hide it or give to your mother or someone you trust. This can be used to help you get back on your feet.
Domestic violence hotline on your phone, but call it something else so he won’t know who the # really is.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
PO Box 90249
Austin, Texas 78709
Administrative Line: 737-225-3150

There is so much invaluable, life saving information there.

Then WHEN you do finally get away, create your own private witness protection program. Don’t let anyone but your parents know where you live, don’t open your door for anyone. Or move in with a safe person/parents who isn’t afraid block him from getting to you. For God’s sake please never talk to him again or his flying monkeys. You will end up back there! Study, how the escape has been successful for other battered ppl. Start your closure now, not later. Get a therapist now. The DV hotline should be able to help. Also, there’s probably one in your state.
I hope this helps. Best of luck sweetie.

GoodTimes

3y↑1

Not really you are making one point about narcissist but then triangulating with many other relationship dynamics

When you know narcissists friends and relationships are fake and you tell them frustrated that his or her friends are fake while they bread crumbing you, you threaten their control over you they further devalue by some form of manipulation. It's their way or high way, usually we empath's and codwpwndents don't have many friends it's perfectly fine.. We know few good friends are enough. Make sure those friends are not narcissists

We all know most of the friendships are fake.

Midrange narcissists are fake empath's with victim mentality creating social media channels and selling their stuff. Watch this people

https://youtu.be/zGBI4SMhui4

All comments from YouTube:

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑95

A narcissist will continue to rob you of your power and voice until you put an end to it. Making you feel like you are not enough is only the beginning. Recognising their tactics and breaking free is how you begin to find yourself again. Thanks for this Stephanie.

Peter K NYK

3y↑79

Giving your power away to a narcissist is treacherous and dangerous and one of the worst things that we can do to ourselves.... they should never be put on a pedestal..... they will attack your self-esteem....🥺 relationships with these kinds of individuals never materialize into anything fruitful!
Thank you very much Stephanie!

Leslie Long

@Anthony Iacobucci Do you mind telling why you chose the terms treacherous and that the Victim of narcissist is just as bad? I’m being sincere. Please don’t be offended.

Michaela valek

2y↑1

@Anthony Iacobucci welp I definitely was t healthy to begin my relationship with my partner. I’m not dangerous or treacherous in my opinion I was just in a venerable state when we met and he saw that and ran with it. Me being naive and young (18) I didn’t see the immediate red flags. I didn’t see all the bad until he started being physical and then emotional and now I feel stuck and afraid and alone. This was all 7 years ago and still hasn’t gotten better like I always had hope it would. I’m trying to seek professional help on how to help me get out….

Anthony Iacobucci

I would say that if you get involved with a narcissist to begin with that you are just as treacherous and dangerous in other ways...co-dependent for example. Healthy people don't get involved with narcissists and they easily spot them early on.

Peter K NYK

@Leahflower That’s a good question! How are we supposed to know what was happening if we didn’t know what all of this meant in the beginning? 🥺

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S Ma

3y↑46

After leaving my constantly cheating husband (after 35 years) it took him 2 weeks to have a new girlfriend. After meeting her less than 10 times he called her "love of his life". 7 days later (which they spent at a hotel) they moved together. She is from another town and now spends her time with him, his family, his friends, sharing his hobbies. Without these coaching videos I would still have no idea what all of this is about. Now I know and suddenly I can explain my whole marriage. Glad that it's over. What he did to me was not ok. Nevertheless it was and it still is my responsibility to work out what make me vulnerable to a narcissist and to never let it happen again.

mmommo1 1111

2y↑1

wow I literally thought I was reading my own comment!!!! same situation....so glad I'm free, so happy I cry.

U Madox

Hugs @S Ma. After 35 years it just took him 2 weeks! So sorry. Gosh, there is no bottom to these narcissists!

Mags S

🙏🏼

peace faith

3y↑5

they are phonies and liars !!

Phoenix Rising

3y↑14

Well said Steph 👌 truths 💥
They isolate you from your support system, and then with your ability to self regulate 🎯
Beginning with someone becoming smitten with you,
it starts with Subtle compliments, positive accolades, paying close attention, being detail orientated and curious about you. Then the compliments subtly dwindle or fade, the attention subtly fades to complacency or disinterest. You go from walking on a cloud to feeling cloudy. Compliments then turn to subtle criticism, slights, and wry humour at your expense. They might mimic or mock you in jest, in a joking manner poking fun at your expense, saying how cute when your ear sticks out of your hair for example, playing on a subtle insecurity, playing on your own or their perceived flaws or imperfections of you or others who you can relate too. It starts out cute, not blatantly disrespectful it’s subtle put downs that make
you feel self conscious and you wonder where did the compliments and positive attention go 🤔 You went
from feeling Valued to devalued. It’s a mind game of emotional manipulation, of manipulating your emotions from high to low with an invisible remote control.

Recovery with Lee

3y↑40

For those in recovery from past patterns, it's important take an inventory of these past patterns, so that we do not allow ourselves to be harmed again. This was helpful for me in early recovery, and for those I guide: to focus on new goals, be aware of past patterns, and create boundaries that will ensure us from slipping back into harms way. Best wishes and practices to all of us!

M S

Yes. Past patterns for sure! And the guilt from setting boundaries, oof the worst. But more importantly, how do you set boundaries when they don't give a flying F about crossing them or the consequences, in fact if you enforce the consequences they will use it as amo against you to gaslight and "crazy" make you. Or worse they turn their aim to the children. It's almost like I have to keep the target on myself so my babies aren't getting the wrath

platinumblondie

3y↑11

I completely agree with you!!! I was married to a narcissist and had such a terrible divorce. That’s when I got involved with the next narcissist. I didn’t even see that he was who he was until I broke it off many years later due to his many years of deception that I believed. My kids hated him but I thought I knew him so much better than I did. My children were all correct and I was wrong.
Please listen to your kids. I was very insecure back then. I had an ex who spent very little time with me and I thought this loser was different.
I often wonder how my disability played into all of this. I’m legally blind since birth and I really wasn’t very independent.
Now I’m single and got psychological help. I love being by myself and I don’t need a man to complete me. So I rescued a kitty and put my energy into my grandsons and 20-20 hindsight.

Anna

3y↑33

Getting flashbacks. Wow! Really interesting. Thank you Stephanie for keeping us educated and aware.

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑2

Get help if you need to and keep educating yourself. That's how you break free ❤

Inner Peace

3y↑3

Flashbacks haunts me a lot

Roksana Ali

3y↑18

Thank you, really appreciate 23 years of marriage and now it’s time for me to recover and find myself again. Love everything you said, is helping me in this difficult time.

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑3

You will heal and recover. Take one step at a time. You can do this ❤

sylvie piette

3y↑14

You have just explained my relationship with know ex to a tee! Thank you for the video and all your videos. You have made such an impact and have helped me heal from the trauma I had to deal with...a person I now was a true narcissist.

CrispyCracker

3y↑6

Been a year now, thank you again for helping me find myself and getting through it.

m taylor

3y↑22

Great topic. Wish I had known all of this prior to being engulfed by my toxic above ex. Thank you and keep this up as it’s saving the sanity of so many

Jesse 🚫James 💯

3y↑2

Glad you got away from your ex and hope you're happier.. Narcissist are the worst and most manipulative people unfortunately!

Ladenna Young

Oh well they are an ex. You still have breath in your body. Focus on healing, and building a complete relationship with Christ and self during this time. And focus on doing what God have created, called, and chose you to do. And everything else will fall into place. It will be alright in Jesus name. God could have allowed you to experience this. So, you can tell others about what you have experienced along the way. Everything happens for a reason. In order to heal successfully and be delivered from codependency altogether is that you have to not see yourself as the victim, but see yourself as a victor (victorious).

Lonjemarieswisdom Aina

3y↑1

Don’t be so hard on yourself princess it just wasn’t time yet, you know NOW!

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑2

Well done. Keep going you will recover and be stronger. One step at a time.

Pearl Duran

3y↑19

Recently went through divorce and just now learning about narcissism. Had been through divorce before but that person wasn’t a narcissist therefore I didn’t struggle emotionally and mentally like I am with this one. Lots of confusion, questions and asking self how I missed the red flags. The more I study Narcissism the more I realize he had the majority of the traits that come with narcissism. Learning lots of stuff. Thank you For all the info your sharing.

Pearl Duran

@Amber Flores praying for you cause this is hard.

Amber Flores

3y↑1

@pearlduran I’m sorry you had this happen to you. The same thing has happened to me after I was divorced as well. I knew it was a different relationship then with my husband but after a few years I realized I wasn’t the problem. I think I ignored in the beginning when I wanted to take more time getting to know eachother because he was rushing me into it. I feel he’s either covert or has bpd. Now I’m stuck dealing with him for many long years because we have a child together.

Hélène Id (Ulricka)

3y↑1

@Pearl: forgive yourself for not calling those red flags out.
Take this time to take care of yourself and heal for real to choose you and to choose better next time.
Stephanie has a video or several on self love. You can check them out.
You will be fine❤

Patrick

3y↑15

Thank you for this Stephanie. We’re lucky to have you

April Belliveau

3y↑7

Thank you! You’re a beautiful soul for helping us understand and heal. This information is absolute gold. Ignoring intuition has become a social “norm” and the videos you’ve posted are waking people up. I’m so appreciative ❤️

M F

3y↑4

As always, amazing video! Thank you so much for all of it! Everything you say always hits home. You’ve taught me so much and give me a boost whenever I need it. Your videos have encouraged me to not make the same mistakes and taught me to break free from the cycle. Talented, strong e sempre linda! Muito obrigada Stephanie

Amber Hardy

3y↑11

Would you consider doing a video on pathological liars? Being lied to is a huge trigger for me and I seem to attract people who have emotional abuse/NPD/habitual liar characteristics. It’s happened with my last three relationships. Including my children’s father whom I still have to deal with. Why am I attracting this? Do you call out the person or is it not worth it? How can I not let it trigger me so much… what can be done? TYSM!!

Yoshi

3y↑6

What's the difference between being judgmental in a toxic dynamic vs being judgmental because the friends are actually toxic? What happens when it is both?

My ex pinned my toxic friends against me until it turned me into a vulture's feast. I didn't think either had issues until I realized they were all acting the same..

Joanne Ryder-Pollard

3y↑3

Thank you!!!! So well explained. Totally got this...priceless ❤

Roxy Peña

3y↑25

Thank you for all your narcissist videos I'm coming out of a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and have 2 babies with him can you do more videos ! Please God bless you 🙏

Gerger

3y↑1

Ashley Burgess, sister shaman, Rebecca Zung , Dr. Ramani in addition!

L. Williams

3y↑1

Dr Carmen Bryant is a jewel as well

Bast

3y↑1

I recommend checking out "jess stanley" videos. She's really great too.

Anna

3y↑5

Watch also Dr. Ramani and Rebecca zung, she's a lawyer and also, like Stephanie, she's an expert in narc.
This is where I get my courage and focus. All three help me differently but all three give me the strength move forward and start believing in myself. Stay strong. Good for you that you're out of your relationship. I'm still stuck and two kids. For me, 20 yrs married and ten dating! So many red flags-all ignored! Funny thing sharing, one week b4 my marriage, my friend convinced me to go see a psychic, the psychic told me that I was with someone that I should leave. She didn't even know I was getting married or in a relationship, then I just never took psychics seriously. I was always sceptical. Ah well...moving forward and wishing you hope, love and success on your terms.

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑4

You are brave 👏🏾. You'll get stronger with each step you take.

S Smith

3y↑9

From my perspective the isolation factor can go either way when dealing with someone with high narcissistic traits. It isn't uncommon for the charming narcissistic partner to eventually introduce you to a slew of highly toxic people who have deep ties in their lives. And you can find yourself losing your own personal boundaries while trying to be accommodating of their friend/family/ex dynamics. You can quickly go from "that was my former life and I now want something different" to "whoops, I'm not really ready to leave that in my past and you're good for this ride, right?"
After 8 years of Jerry Springer episodes in my living room, I found myself ready for some boundaries with certain people. Hate to come across as judgemental but I actually like my boundaries. They keep me happy and limit a certain type of drama that I'd prefer to avoid in my life. I've experienced things that just didn't work for me that I never once dreamed would work for him. Mother-in-law's new 70 year old nudist boyfriend strolling through my kitchen in nothing but his tighty whities while chatting up my horrified young teen stepdaughter comes to mind. Then there were all the nude selfies that the step daughter's biological mom sent on late Friday nights and early Saturday mornings. Somehow blocking her number never seemed to work for long. Or when the mother in law wanted to ride along with him at work in the company vehicle but also expected to be able to pick up a little something from the local liquor store to keep things fun for both of them on take mom to work day. Or the fun aunt who volunteered to drive the 2 1/2 hours to pick up her niece during summer break but who definitely couldn't make the trip without her flask being refilled for the drive.
I definitely needed some people boundaries. And I'm glad I was willing to stand up for myself and my expectations of healthy vs. not so healthy over the years. I've struggled with the appearance of being the partner who isolated him from his family. I've also always known that I couldn't live with myself if I sent my stepdaughter out with someone who caused her death or injury due to driving impaired or other poor choices. Not to mention the possibility of him losing his career/driving ability while trying to keep grandma happy. Truthfully, if I'd known what I was signing up for... I've become the evil witch. And there are lots of flying monkeys in every direction.

Abraham Phoenix

3y↑5

Thank you so much for sharing this valuable information with us!
What you said about Isolation i saw and witnessed happening to a sibling of mine it happened all to a T!
It's horrible the damage these narcs can cause to someone who falls for their charms/manipulation!

Amina Belloulou

3y↑7

Thank you so much for everything you're doing it means a lot ♥️

Lisa

3y↑5

You have helped me so incredibly much! Thank you! You are such a blessing ❤

Dave Torchia

3y↑4

You hit the nail rite on the head,this is exactly what she did to me.thank you.

Anya Johnson

3y↑3

That was very helpful! I appreciate your videos! Thank you Stephanie.❤️

Christian Pulisic

Anya Johnson,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

Paul Thomason

3y↑6

So right on, almost play-by-play. Thank you Stephanie

Sophie

3y↑6

I wouldn't say your loved ones try to steer you away from the abuse- there's no way they can say anything to you or they'll lose you. What I found in my own experience was their simple presence in your life is protective. When you talk to them about what's going on in your relationship, just their reaction makes an impact. I recall my friends saying 'you mean you never go out on a night out without him?' I happily said yes as I thought he was protecting me, he'd made me feel I was unable to cope out alone... when I saw my friends worried glances between each other, even though they didn't comment, I saw it. It stayed with me. Later on he used to react with fury about my daughters father picking her up and dropping her off, I clocked he had always tried to alienate me from him and I suddenly saw how the only protection I had left in our isolated existence was her dad picking her up, stepping in, seeing us both - and my mum. He tried to turn me against them by picking at insecurities and normal day to day complaints I'd expressed. By the time I got us out the abuse was awful.

victorian john

3y↑3

Hi Stephanie! Boy oh boy… dis one hits🎯🥊 thank u 4 dis session. It’s helping me. It gave me clarity & to identify my pass patterns & how I got entangled into bad relationships.. look up 2 these ppl I put on a pedestal stool & question myself bc I’m so thankful to have meet someone (any relationship) & all my standards go. 🥷😱🤦🏾‍♀️oh dear! This one hurts.. I’m still battling with dis one.. getting better ❤️‍🩹 but yet & still. I will use this session to gage this cycle in any relationship moving forward.

Thank u 🙏🏿💕

Alex DG

2y↑1

I really wish I found these videos 8 years ago. This is EXACTLY what happened to me.... word for word. On point. Like I'm crying. All of my friendships and relationships with people ended or took time off for the length of the marriage.

Kolby Drees

3y↑4

Wow! Great reminders for people who are learning about these toxic people. Reminded me of exactly how my relationship with my EX evolved. I am so thankful for the time I how have on my own to heal and build my self love!

Twitchy Lake

3y↑10

See, the thing is about being single, this HAS to be where POSITIVE MANTRAS come in. If you look at it like I'm going to be on my own, I don't want to be on my own etc and at a time in my life where I would have done that I also had some really cool friends after this one break up and I actually enjoyed being single and going out with them because the positive affermations were I'M TAKING A BREAK FROM DATING. I'M HAVING FUN. etc and the best advice I've ever heard, is that THINGS HAPPEN WHEN YOU LAST EXPECT IT. You go around, expecting it, expecting to fall in love, expecting to have the kids etc and the house, the white pikett fence and the dog it never happens. Why? As human being, we create energy every day, and not everybody we meet is an empath but you'd be surprised that a lot of people at theast 60% of the time pick up on your body language and what energy you project out. These young ones who are looking for love they reack of despair and healthy, balanced men don't want that, they want someone who is fun, charming and beautiful and if they can see that, at your confident free loose self you'll have more offers. You can even say you're freeing yourself from this toxic relationship for someone even better to find me but then get back to who you are, things that make you happy, writing, drawing, art and the right person will come along, you just have to believe in a happy ending. Believe in love. Believe in happiness - some people are like, that's it, I can never trust again, I caught myself saying that to myself only once - I heard it in head and I knew I didn't really believe it so I rejected it. Don't have hope in the wrong relationship where someone one's toxic. You have the hope after you let them go if you don't have hope there's a better future, that thought will be forever holding you back. If you say all men are assholes that's negative, you can say he was an asshole, I dated but not all men are assholes. This is where your words become your thoughts and you thoughts in turn becone your beliefs and the them beliefs influence your behaviour and perhaps psychologicalists take a different impression from our Disneys which I'm aware of they do I know they do but the message I got was to believe in a happy ending, believe in love and your MR or MRS right. That what I took from that Prince charming didn't love an ugly sister he loved the right woman for him but how Cinderella always held onto hope who even sung about hope to her mice friends she sung about having faith in her dreams and that faith of a happy ending made her heart open up to love (and that's a powerful message for kids) or when they realise that. Have faith. Without the faith you don't get what you want in life. Deep down believe in love and it worked for me. It brings tears to my eyes when I hear people saying I'm nothing, I'm unlovable because they really believe that. Changing our beliefs is powerful and the first step to creating our own lives

Matthew Jurak

3y↑2

Spot on. Hard to hear. But needed. Thank you for what you do it helps. Several years ago watching one of your narc videos after some random YouTube searches on relationships helped me to see which led me to counseling which helped me to heal. The road has been long and hard and I'm still putting in the work, but I am not in toxic relationships. Thanks Stephanie ❤️

Craig Merkey

3y↑2

Great advice ! Especially notable when your parent who has narcissistic traits continually and openly trashes your siblings partners and their families after almost 30 years of marriage. HARD pass!!

Traci Kennebrew

3y↑8

Flashback, who's that?! Once again, you're so accurate. I didn't listen to my intuitive voice when I began to notice something wasn't quite right. It started with "I'm your superman," then the isolation, then the division amongst family members. Then the gaslighting, I was never on his "level," then the ghosting.
Wow, if it weren't for the fact that I'm sweet, I'd have to say I sure was a sucker...😐

Traci Kennebrew

@Leahflower Yes, same here. I had to stop myself from breaking out in uncontrollable laughter as he said, "I've been nothing but good to you."😅 After years of his drug addictions, his manipulation and deception, his physical and emotional abuse, I'm waiting for my attorney to serve his ass with divorce papers. He's a coward who is a child hiding behind his abusive childhood and doesn't want to work on himself, in the meantime our children are traumatized and miserable about as much as I am.
I wish you recovery from the pain inflicted by the a**** who hurt you. May you blossom 🥰💐

Leahflower

3y↑1

yeah i dealt with the superman thing too it's the hardest thing to overcome because they will remind you even after you leave "I was there for you when you had no one else!"

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑3

You're not alone and there is hope. You can begin to take 1 step at a time and make full recovery ❤

Lorraine Mccormick

3y↑6

Thank you so much , I was in a toxic relationship for years and couldn’t see it till I was working on myself and got emotional stronger that I could see it all .

David Coppotelli

3y↑3

Its truly amazing when you see it.

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑1

Well done. Keep moving in the direction of progress 👏🏾

Redeemed

Oh yeah it was like going to war any time I wanted to hang with friends or family. 😂 something that should be totally normal was made to be absolute misery. Some of the worst verbal abuse I incurred was because of that. Praise God for getting me out.

Judy O'Rourke

3y↑5

So true. This really landed. Thank you!

Lioyd Williams

Judy 0'Rourke,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

Liz Thompson

3y↑1

My ex separated me from friends and family, I was with him 14 years of my young life. Now 10 years single. I’ve built a life for myself and the world is different now. Met 2 narcissist and lots of dead inside ppl while single . I want to get married again and I really have faith I will find a healthy human to share life with. ❤️

D Appeksha

3y↑2

A narcissists is doing the exact same thing. Very well explained. Thanks for the video

Derek Barcial

3y↑5

Thank you, as always, Stephanie :)

andreaarchive

Just starting this video and I just want to say it’s hard af to deal with this when you were raised by a narc and they isolated you.

Martina Majakova

Very well explained video! Thank you 🙂

Women Who Date

3y↑6

This is my favorite channel 😍 I especially like your interesting angles and opinions.

Veera Kay

3y↑2

The isolation! I hadn't seen my relatives since getting married 2 years ago! My husband would always say "yes we'll meet them at big events... I don't have time cuz of my work to meet them" not even my dad! And I have a twin sister!

breeortega1

3y↑1

Wow I wish I heard this 10 years ago when I left home for college!
This is super eye opening ! Thank you Stephanie ❤️❤️❤️

Iza Waniek

Thank you for great advice and support.

Momie Máxima

3y↑2

People around you that are good will not take away from you , theres good people out there and then theres the ones that feed on whatever they can but stay positive and love on.

Kali J

Can completely relate to this video. I didn't like myself when I was around this person. And I told him that. Because I thought I was in love with him and hoped he would recognise the toxic ways he displayed. Until we had a child did I realise that this unhealthy relationship wasn't just about me but about my child too. I didn't wantmy baby to grow up thinking that verbal and emotional abuse daily had to be normal. I left after the physical abuse started. I knew at the start and mentioned to my ex partner that I felt like he was here to ruin my life. In the end I thanked him because he actually made my life better. I moved away from all the BS that was involved in that environment. Do I love him? Yes! But I love myself more to know that this is not my end game. My end game is raising a decent human being. With daily love and encouragement. There will be times in the future that I will have to revisit the former me, who went through the relationship, and guide he with more assuring help but I will make sure that I teach my baby the ways to approach someone who is abusive. I've been listening to your videos for two days now and its all spot on. Self parenting is something that I've done previously, just never gsve it a term. Look forward to tuning in more and thank you so much for sharing your ideas

Erwin Vds

3y↑5

Most of it I knew already, but you have no idea how welcome this video is at the moment.
Even if it only is as a reminder.
Thx

Dwight wil

3y↑1

Being stuck in a relationship isn't something that one chooses for me having to start over again isn't what I chose either but its reality

Lonjemarieswisdom Aina

3y↑2

If you are the wonderful person that clicked on this video it means that you are probably in a unhealthy narcissistic relationship. There’s always hope ,videos like these time , and prayer help us to , set boundaries, or to get TOTALLY AWAY from them, recover , heal and please believe that YOU CAN!

Justin Shelton

3y↑3

Thanks again. Couldn't tell you that enough. Just, thank you.

Stefanie Annette

Wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear.

Keyana Celestain

3y↑9

This was so insightful and neccessary. I wish I seen those sudden flags back then.

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

Now you do. You'll be better for it.

vhayashi

3y↑2

I've been single for two years. I quit dating Because all I have experienced are Narcissistic guys. Was married to one and the last boyfriend was. So a guy approached me online on a game app and wanted to talk to me, then he tells me in the first week he wants a serious relationship and loves me. I told him I need more time. Then after 2 weeks he started going silent. He didn't say a word for 10 days, then said Hi, then nothing again for a week. I'm done. All I see are Red flags. No thank you.

Darryl Joyner

Beautiful content. Thank you!

christine cutter

3y↑3

In the beginning stages of the relationship I found when you do bring your friends around they act out of their way nicer tho them than to you… idk if that makes sense. But it’s like a vibe you get. Because of course you want your friends to like your bf. But you also want them to see how good your bf is to you. Idk I feel like they do this so we won’t bring our friends around..

Anthony Twohill

I think I understand what you mean. My mother was always on her best behavior when meeting new people but then slowly over time she would hook them in with the narcissistic behavior. Before anyone knew it, everything was always about my mother and she was always a victim. A good manipulator puts you off your guard so it's harder for you to see what they really are. So your significant other has already gotten his hooks into you but needs to be extra nice to your friends so as not to be detected. That way, your friends think your partner is great and can point to you as the cause to any problems you might come to your friends with regarding the relationship.

Does that make sense?

Jennifer Arce

3y↑1

Wow Stephanie being with my fiancée 10 yrs now and looking back the stages you talked about are exactly what has happened gosh 10 yrs later what in the world is next? If I wasn’t so strong headed I couldn’t of lasted this long let me ask you miss Stephanie if you have seen or have info on long term relationships that suffer from a partner that’s narcissistic? Out of ten years of my empathetic intuition have I seen certain behaviors that haven’t checked right with me and only since I’ve discovered you and your videos 3 months ago have I been enlighten so please help if you have any input on long term relationships suffering with these types of partners thankyou!

mz. white

2y↑1

When I met my narc husband I had no life, no Friends (I'm not really a Friend person) all I had was an empty low- income apartment in the hood. It was just my children and I and I really wanted a boyfriend. He told me he loved me within a week of hanging out together. And then he tried to lie and say I said it first. And I didn't say it first. We had a 4 year relationship full of drama, chaos and arguing. I kind of look at the relationship as a blessing. I learned from the relationship. He recently discarded me and I'm working on my self love. I'm in school pursuing a degree in human and social services and I have learned alot about myself since my husband left. We are going to make it. 💕

Naomi's Slot Channel

2y↑1

Thank you for the truth!!

Heidi Harris

3y↑2

WOW ! i cant believe i was so blindddd ! What a repetitive cycle i have went through ! OVER AND OVER 😩

Tom L.

this is ringing so true for me. thanks!

A Digital Conscience

Hi Stephanie,
There are a lot of themes & theories in these scenarios & behaviours described. It's fascinating for me to understand because I live in London, England & am having to deal with being able to grasp who is great for me & what I can offer a woman in my thirties. To the Narcissistic audience, my advice would be to consider what an independent project can offer within your society & community. Explore what is considered respectable vocations patiently, in order to be financially rewarded and feel inner contentment. Then you will be strong enough to travel for your own growth - without being reliant or overly concerned about the success or failure of your partnership. It's really calming to explore alternatives to Capitalism & construct an informed opinion of Communist societies, values & economic systems.
Now it's time to Read, read and research thoroughly!

Pakeeza Abbasi

3y↑2

I couldn’t go to see my mother for years and years. Because my husband( narc) told me, my mother is not my responsibility and she was very sick. I believed everything he told me. My life decision was in his hands and he took me where he wanted. Until recently his mask slipped and saw his real face. Now I am scared of his real face.

mmommo1 1111

same

Kyla Green

3y↑2

My gosh, thank you so much ❤

Lisa Frankenstein

3y↑5

Damn, I have a real problem pedestaling people...thanks for the insight

Kenia Sharpe

3y↑14

I thank YAH for sending me to this lady she is thee absolute truth I’ve learned a lot from her and baby when I say I’m coming out of this like a champ I’m coming out of this like a CHAMPION
Once she broke it down like a kindergarten teacher and i understood like a kindergartner I will NOT let no one handle me any kind of way again I feeeeel so goood the self soothing and self parent talk and self motivation really helped me

Christiana Senibo - Self Confidence Coach

3y↑1

Well done. Go champ! 👏🏾🙂

Red_Go

this is exactly what happened to my older sister. since she met her current partner, he slowly poisoned my sister with all the wrong information & accused our family of doing "black magic" on their family. he told my sis he can talk to God, etc. when my sis was sick, it was because my brother was doing black magic on her. when their children were sick, it was because my mom doing black magic on them. My sister was completely brainwashed & trusted him. My sister personality changed 180 degrees and she's like a completely different person now. She is angry most of the time & hates her own family. She eventually run away & married this guy. Turned out, he doesn't work or provide anything for my sis. My sis has to work hard to support him (who spend most of the days doing lazy things at home). My parents had to buy her home, car, and all the supplies she needs to open a shop. One day she called my mom crying & sobbing, saying that her life is so miserable now. But too late. She has become so isolated from us. All the painful things she had said over the years have left a deep wound in myself & my family. She's on her own now.

Angel Lee

3y↑1

Wow thank you Stephanie, you are again right on point!

Jennifer jer333

3y↑1

I'm starting to feel this way again

beau chateau

3y↑1

Great information. Thanks!

Lioyd Williams

beau chateau,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

Bronwyn Tanner

3y↑1

OH oh oh so accurate. My ex husband the passive aggressive covert narc. My mother the narcissistic momster. A number of former friends. No contact with them all.

Dallas White

Always on point thank you

Roger Penndorf

3y↑2

Good Stuff Steph!!! Thanks

Healthy food with Alemitu

it's great!❤ thank you🙏❤

Jess Noelle Trask

3y↑2

I literally this happen with my most current ex at the beginning of this year.

Christian Pulisic

Jess Noelle Trask,You are beautiful,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!

chilloften

3y↑3

I’m struggling to get back to my old self. I had it ALL but thought grass could be greener. Lost my way. I’m not even in a town where I want to be.

chilloften

3y↑1

@a_co thank you Ana, make my night!!

a_co

3y↑1

Wishing you a lot of strength on your journey! Know you’re not alone in making this mistake.

Rochelle Mayronne

I Appreciate Your Videos !

Janette McCallum

3y↑2

Thank you!!

Max Waller

3y↑1

Thank you ma’am

Lydia Highfill

What do I do if I’m with a narcissist but have no friends ? I’m in the military and moving place to place makes it hard to make friends. I’m also Christian, and was homeschooled so I have a hard time connecting with people my age because of how strictly I was raised under a sheltered bubble.

Zeta Proda

I was there for 10 yrs. Because I loved him incredibly I started not liking anybody in my environment but him. I left before getting married when my dad visited me to support me during a depressive episode and my ex told me that if parents come for more than 10 days even if it is for care, they need to sleep in a hotel. He doesn't want to ever spend time with my sister and her husband and I love these people. I felt alone. I left with all the heartache but I couldn't betray myself like that.

Jay Presley

3y↑2

Spot on Stephanie

Abdilwasie Dholayare

3y↑7

very intelligent women !!! ...

David Hinkson

Isolation was a big part of my relationship with the woman I married who I eventually discovered was a narcissist. Now I've finally got away from her, I realize that from the very start she "encouraged" me to give up an important element of my career in which I had made a name for myself for several years before I met her, decided my friends weren't good enough for me, then got me to join her church where I had to give up my entire lifestyle to "serve God". It was all a scam!

David Hinkson

@Anthony Twohill Seventh Day Adventist

Anthony Twohill

Was she a Jahova's Witness?

April Gr.

Yup my husband ruined me. Six years later. Been homeless n car less now for 7 years. I gave him everything. I do what to do now.

NoMansLand

What if her family has a bunch of situations that you want to address? It isn’t that I’m trying to separate her from her family.. but things like, her aunt calls and asks if my now ex would be the guardian of her 32 yr old autistic son if something happened to her. Her aunt told her that he comes with a state paycheck, so she wouldn’t have to work again. I’m like.. um, hold on. Her other aunt has taken over the house that her grandparents had left to the aunt with the autistic son so she would always have a home. There is no money saved, no planning, my ex’s daughter is getting ready to go to college with no planning, her son’s dad died a few years ago and is in need of counseling badly... …and, of course, if I bring these things up as concerns, my now ex would turn it on me as if I’m a judgmental narcissist and gaslight me.

There is a difference between what you describe here… and being concerned of how family things affect the relationship. I wasn’t judging them… but judging whether that entire situation is something I want for my future. Please put a disclaimer out there that there is a massive difference between what you’re describing here and honest concern.

I was made out to be a narcissist and accused me of doing what you say here. In the end, I determined it wasn’t me at all.

Nancy Suver

3y↑2

The malignant narcissist I divorced would constantly make bad comments, insults about my family and friends to alienate them from me and my children.He would then smear campaign and triangulate them against me.
He would even tell me not to have close relationships with my family and friends because it hurt his feelings.
He took a hammer to what I had inherited with sentimental value..my great great grandmothers antique dresser mirror yelling he had “waited forever to do that “
He was trying anyway he could to erase everyone and everything related to them out of mine and my children’s lives

Cyndi Gooch

3y↑1

Nancy Elizabeth Suver Good on you for divorcing that extremely cruel person! I really wanted to use swear words instead of person though. ❤

N W

3y↑1

Tactic is........ ISOLATION
UNHEALTHY- isolation is confused with love.

Ashley Rutherford

Ya, she has caused a wedge between my brother and I. My brother doesn’t talk to me anymore even after I’ve tried several times to extend olive branches. So now what? I would love a video on that. What is the family members who have been kicked to the curb by this toxic significant other your old brother has suppose to do. Because family get togethers still happen. It’s a pretty horrible feeling. Just being around his gf, you can literally feel the toxicity. It’s sad.

Glenna B

3y↑2

✨👌 Thank u 🙏

Lioyd Williams

Glenna B,You look stunning,hope you are not with a narc 😈!

thetruth

3y↑1

💟🙏🏾💯💟

Salome Salome

👏🏽👏🏽❤️🙏

Cam Van

I was wondering if we should chose a partner only on the fact that they are realible or should consider sex appeal also. I am codependent and have pretty much no judgment.