她的溫柔
劉若英 Lyrics

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女與男的關係多長才能算久
問了幾個朋友差不多都搖頭
都說看妳怎麼要求再看將不將就
這話讓人聽了心裡難受

女孩要是寂寞不必誰引誘
雖說現在認識到分手三年堪稱不朽
可是當她說要分開真的不必挽留

她說要分手多數都沒有救

她的確溫柔
儘管有時候她的心沒有你想得保守
她真溫柔三十歲之前不停漂流那是因為青春愛情
她們都想要有

一旦胖起來就好像不會變瘦
慢慢地也能接受不會永遠晶瑩剔透
孩子慢慢大了以後清晰的只剩代溝
男人為什麼從不理會前奏

啊！她的溫柔
到這個時候開始會變得不輕易表露
她的溫柔是一種火侯
不是哪個青春小妞隨便學得走
她的幸福誰都不讓插手

她的確溫柔
儘管有時候她的心沒有你想得保守
她再溫柔三十歲之後不想漂流那是因為青春愛情
不看好就會溜走

啊！她的溫柔
到這個時候開始會變得不輕易表露
她的溫柔是一種火侯

不是哪個青春小妞隨便學得走
她的幸福誰都不讓插手

Overall Meaning

The lyrics of the Chinese song “她的溫柔” by Liu Ruoying (Fish Leong) talk about the complexities of romantic relationships between men and women. The opening line poses the question of how long a relationship has to be to be considered “long”, to which the singer admits that she has asked several friends but received no clear answer. The response she was given was that it depends on both parties and their individual expectations and willingness to compromise. This realization causes the singer's heart to feel heavy and burdened with unspoken emotions.

As the song progresses, the singer speaks of a woman, who is gentle and kind, but not necessarily conservative in terms of her emotions. The woman has been through breakups before and, although she can recognize when a relationship should end, it is not always easy for her to break away. The lyrics suggest that women are often better off being alone than with the wrong partner.

The song ends on a hopeful note, with the singer declaring that the woman’s gentleness is a fire, not something that can be easily learned and replicated by younger generations. Her happiness is hers alone, and nobody can take it away from her.

Line by Line Meaning

女與男的關係多長才能算久
How long does a romantic relationship between a man and a woman need to last to be considered long-lasting?

問了幾個朋友差不多都搖頭
After asking a few friends, they all shook their heads in uncertainty.

都說看妳怎麼要求再看將不將就
They all said that it depends on what you want and what you're willing to compromise.

這話讓人聽了心裡難受
These words make one feel uneasy.

女孩要是寂寞不必誰引誘
When a girl is lonely, she doesn't need anyone to lure her into a relationship.

雖說現在認識到分手三年堪稱不朽
Even though nowadays people break up after just three years of being together, it's still considered a long time.

可是當她說要分開真的不必挽留
However, when a girl says she wants to break up, there's no point in trying to save the relationship.

她說要分手多數都沒有救
Once she says she wants to break up, it's usually too late to save the relationship.

她的確溫柔
She's truly gentle.

儘管有時候她的心沒有你想得保守
Even though sometimes her heart isn't as reserved as you think.

她真溫柔三十歲之前不停漂流那是因為青春愛情她們都想要有
She's truly gentle. Before the age of thirty, she kept drifting because both youth and love are things that everyone desires.

一旦胖起來就好像不會變瘦
Once she gains weight, it seems like she won't be able to lose it.

慢慢地也能接受不會永遠晶瑩剔透
She gradually comes to accept that she won't always be flawless and clear.

孩子慢慢大了以後清晰的只剩代溝
As the child grows up, the only thing that remains clear is the generation gap between them.

男人為什麼從不理會前奏
Why is it that men never pay attention to the prelude?

啊！她的溫柔
Ah, her gentleness.

到這個時候開始會變得不輕易表露
By this time, she'll start to become less likely to reveal her gentleness easily.

她的溫柔是一種火侯
Her gentleness is like a fire that burns deeply.

不是哪個青春小妞隨便學得走
It's not something a young girl can learn easily.

她的幸福誰都不讓插手
No one can interfere with her happiness.

她再溫柔三十歲之後不想漂流那是因為青春愛情不看好就會溜走
She's still gentle, but after thirty, she doesn't want to drift anymore. If she doesn't see a future for her love, she'll leave.

Writer(s): 張瑀容

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