My Friends
Red Hot Chili Peppers Lyrics


My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will

Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Imagine me taught by tragedy
Release is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said
Was something beautiful
To give, your love
No matter what
Yeah, what she said

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Lyrics © MoeBeToBlame
Written by: ANTHONY KIEDIS, CHAD SMITH, DAVID NAVARRO, MICHAEL BALZARY

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Budi Surya Nugraha

My friends are so depressed

I feel the question of your loneliness

Confide 'cause I'll be on your side

You know I will, you know I will



Ex-girlfriend called me up

Alone and desperate on the prison phone

They want to give her 7 years

For being sad



[Chorus:]

I love all of you

Hurt by the cold

So hard and lonely, too

When you don't know yourself



My friends are so distressed

And standing on the brink of emptiness

No words I know of to express

This emptiness



[Chorus]



Imagine me

Taught by tragedy

Release

Is peace



I heard a little girl

And what she said was something beautiful

"To give your love no matter what."

Is what she said.



[Chorus]



Theresa L. Dowling

Did you know that three of the guys in RHCP have been arrested or convicted of sex crimes, and Anthony Keidis is a child rapist according to his autobiography but was never charged?  UPI ARCHIVES APRIL 3, 1990

Singer Anthony Kiedis convicted of sexual battery, indecent exposure



FAIRFAX, Va. -- The lead singer of the rock group Red Hot Chili Peppers was convicted Tuesday of sexual battery and indecent exposure after a concert in suburban Washington, D.C.

Anthony Kiedis, 27, of Los Angeles, was accused of touching a woman's face with his penis after a concert at George Mason University in Fairfax County on April 21, 1989.

The woman, a student at GMU who served on the university's program board, said the incident occurred outside the band's dressing room after the concert.

Circuit Court jurors recommended that Kiedis be fined $1,000 on each charge. He could have received up to 60 days in jail.

Judge Michael McWeeny set sentencing for Friday. Under Virginia law, McWeeny can impose the jury's recommendation or reduce it, but he cannot increase it.

The Circuit Court trial was an appeal of a ruling by a lower court judge, who found Kiedis guilty of both charges and sentenced him to 60 days in jail.

Kiedis denied ever touching the woman but others said they saw the incident and a band member admitted he made an encouraging statement.

Fans of the rock band, whose music is described as 'white funk,' packed the courtroom during the two days of testimony.

The band's latest album, 'Mother's Milk,' includes the hit songs 'Knock Me Down,' and a remake of the Stevie Wonder tune 'Higher Ground.'

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2 IN BAND ARRESTED AFTER ATTACKING FAN



March 17, 1990


Shirish Date Of The Sentinel Staff

THE ORLANDO SENTINEL




True to their name, the Red Hot Chili Peppers were hot - so hot that they trashed their stage, then jumped into the crowd to manhandle a bikini-clad woman during an MTV taping on the beach.

Police weren't amused.

Neither was MTV, which threw the band off the set. And neither was the 20-year-old Virginia woman, who filed charges against two band members.

Defenders of the Red Hot Chili Peppers say Wednesday afternoon's episode at an MTV taping was just part of its image, which sometimes includes taking the stage wearing nothing more than strategically placed socks or diapers.



Maybe. But early Friday morning, the Volusia County Beach Rangers decided that arresting bass guitarist Flea and drummer Chad Smith and charging them with lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct were part of the rangers' image.

"I'm not going to put up with it," said Ranger Chief Jon Kirvan, hours after arresting half the band's members about 1 a.m. Friday after a concert at the Marriott Hotel. "That could be your daughter."

Wednesday's melee took place during MTV's taping for its Club MTV dance program. The band was lip-syncing the song "Knock Me Down" when Flea - whose real name is Michael Balzary - started banging his bass guitar against Chad Smith's drum kit, according to police, who seemed to have a tough time making sense of the punk band's show.

"At the end of a set, the band members started jumping around on stage, pushing microphones to the stage floor, swinging instruments around, knocking over the drums and making a comment about the police that was not fully heard by this writer," wrote Daytona police Sgt. Robert Grim.

"One of the band members with a shaved-type head with a multicolored bush of hair centered on top of his head picked up a white female victim, placing her over his shoulders," Grim wrote.

Smith joined Flea, and pulled the woman's bathing suit bottom partially off and started slapping her buttocks, according to Beach Ranger Guy Grasso's report.

At that point, the woman fell to the sand, only to have Flea kneel atop her, start grabbing at her, and demand that she perform oral sex on him, Grasso's report said.

MTV security pulled Flea off and escorted him and Smith off property of the Texan Motel, MTV's base during spring break.



Kirvan said his officers talked to the woman Thursday and got arrest warrants Thursday night from Circuit Judge Robert Miller.

"Last night after their performance - if you want to call it that - we served the warrants and arrested them," Kirvan said. "If somebody assaults somebody, we're going to do something."

Flea, 26, was charged with battery, disorderly conduct and solicitation to commit an unnatural and lascivious act and released on $2,000 bail. Smith, 28, was charged with battery and released on $1,000 bail. All the charges are misdemeanors.

Neither Flea nor Smith could be reached for comment Friday.

The woman declined comment.



This band had charges in 3 states in 1996 for sex crimes against women employed to work at their concerts ( It was on MTV America News)==



Cicit Mungil

Folks says about Lyric meaning :
1. "I read a essay Anthony wrote on his heroes, and he said that his greatest hero is a 9 year old girl he saw on televison who won a dancing contest. She was sexually abused and beaten by her father, but when they asked her what she learned from her experiences she just said-

'To forgive and endlessly give your love to all those around you no matter what happens'

Thats what the last line in the song means.... beautiful isn't it?.."

2. "...Anthony Kiedis wrote this song as a collective hug and reassurance for fellow Chili Peppers member/bassist Flea, who, at the time, was going through a rough divorce. Or, that's what I heard, and it's what I believe."

3. "....This song is pretty straightforward; it's about struggling and being completely mentally and physically drained of all emotion- which is how depression really is."



Jeferson Barros

My Friends
Red Hot Chili Peppers


My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will

Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Imagine me taught by tragedy
Release is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said
Was something beautiful
To give, your love
No matter what
Yeah, what she said

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself



Slobodan Markovic

My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will

Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Imagine me taught by tragedy
Release is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said
Was something beautiful
To give, your love
No matter what
Yeah, what she said

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself



Theresa L. Dowling

@andré pereira Part 2-----Ugly stories come not just from the lowly but from people at all levels of the business. There’s Mary Cary, guitarist for Rosary, a female hard-rock band, describing a pawing studio owner who demanded sex in exchange for recording time. ”He told us that if we slept with him, he would get us a label deal, and he was just a sleazy little studio guy with no power.” And the notoriously raunchy band the Red Hot Chili Peppers, reversing the roles in an interview for Creem with journalist Nina Malkin, bombarded her with lewd questions about her sex life. (”They were just goofing,” their manager says.) At a radio industry convention last year, top radio consultant Randy Michaels hired a stripper, disguised as a waitress, to have her shirt ripped off during a panel on contemporary hit radio. And an executive at a major label made assignments to employees while playing pornographic tapes on his VCR — ”He did it just to humiliate us,” one woman said.

”The industry promotes the bimbo image very well,” says an ex-label executive, who left the business because of what she characterized as its unacceptably sexist environment. ”The man in music spends his day promoting bimbos on album covers, and the women in the office are viewed as just more of those bimbos. Not all men see it this way, obviously. But the violence is there. In this business, people are reduced to things, and it’s awful.”



That’s an attitude that often starts near the very top — in the offices, say, of an Abbey Konowitch, 40, who in the mid-’80s was vice president for video and artist development for Arista Records. In July 1987, Arista promoted a woman named Joanne Smat into Konowitch’s department, as national manager of artist development. Although several women alleged to Entertainment Weekly reporters that Konowitch verbally abused female coworkers, Smat is the only one willing to go on the record with charges. Because she has since married and left the music business to become an advertising executive, she no longer feels her career is threatened. Other sources, male and female, have confirmed Smat’s story but stressed that if Konowitch found out their names, their careers would be ruined.

”After a very short time it became apparent that there was a certain way Abbey operated, and that I was not going to be able to handle it,” says Smat. His method of operation, she says, included repeatedly asking such questions as ”Can I bite you?” ”Can I touch your thigh?” ”Can I bite your ass?” According to Smat, he predicted that she would sleep with him on a company trip to Maui. She decided to stay home. The day Konowitch began instructing an intern in ”shooting rubber bands at my ass,” Smat says, she was so fed up she walked out of the office.

She says she asked a female executive for advice and was sent to a vice president. He said he’d give her a transfer, effectively a demotion, to a secretarial position. In November 1987, she consulted lawyer Michael Holland.

”He knew of other cases where women had been physically fondled and the lawyers weren’t able to make (the charges) stick because of difficulties of proof,” she says. ”He basically said the law doesn’t work and you don’t have a choice.” ”I advised her that since she was considering other career options anyway, maybe she should just move on,” confirms Holland. Smat resigned in January 1988.

Konowitch declines to comment. His attorney denies Smat’s allegations and claims Arista has no record of any formal complaints or discussions of Smat’s charges. A woman who worked with Smat and Konowitch maintains, however, that there were several formal meetings between Smat and a top Arista manager. ”One of the vice presidents,” she says, ”called up every woman who worked with Abbey and said, ‘Does he really do these kinds of things?’ And all of us said yes. Their solution was to ask us if we wanted to transfer to other departments.”

”On a day-to-day basis Abbey would say gross things,” she says. ”If you asked him for a vacation day, he’d say, ‘Scratch my back and I’ll think about it.’ And he was serious. There were two ways you could handle it. You could just laugh or ignore it or swear at him, or you could really let it get to you. Joanne didn’t want to put up with it — and she shouldn’t have had to — and she complained.”

”Complaints were made by Joanne to me,” says Roy Lott, executive vice president and general manager of Arista Records. ”The situation was analyzed. I, and others, talked to various people. And we found no basis for taking any action against Abbey Konowitch.”

Konowitch’s career apparently has not been affected by any of the complaints. He is now senior vice president for music and talent at MTV, where he decides which bands’ videos get airtime. Last year he was selected as one of Entertainment Weekly‘s Power 101 (he was No. 25).

Other men in music facing harassment charges have fared less well.

Marko Babineau, 40, former general manager of the Geffen Records’ DGC label, resigned unexpectedly in September ”to be with his family.” On Nov. 14 his former assistant, Penny Muck, 28, filed suit against him for sexual harassment, intentional infliction of emotional distress, and assault and battery. She charged, among other things, that Babineau touched her breasts and buttocks, ejaculated on a magazine he had placed in front of her, placed his erect penis in her ear, and ordered her to clean up his semen. Other women who worked for Babineau have told similar tales. His attorney has not returned this magazine’s calls.

Mike Bone, 42, former copresident of PolyGram’s Mercury Records, lost his job Nov. 1, two days before allegations surfaced in the Los Angeles Timesabout his alleged misconduct in the office. In July 1990, while president of PolyGram’s Island Records, he allegedly propositioned his then administrative assistant, Lori Harris, 28, at a company party, and when he was rebuffed made it clear that her job was in jeopardy. The next morning he fired her. ”His attitude was ‘That was pleasure; this is business,”’ says Harris, who filed a harassment suit against Bone and Island Records in July, charging violation of the New York State human rights laws. ”I view him as kind of pathetic at this point,” she says, noting that she was unemployed for six months and still has found only part-time work. ”What’s ridiculous is that no one stopped him. Island Records and PolyGram don’t care what happened to me. They moved him from president of a company where he had been accused of harassing and firing his assistant to president of a new company (Mercury) where no one knew what he’d done. He got to start over.” Bone, who has denied Harris’ charges in the past, referred a reporter to his lawyer, who said Bone would not respond.

Jeff Aldrich, 41, recently RCA’s senior vice president of A&R, was let go in December 1990 as a result of multiple sexual harassment complaints. At a convention in Scottsdale, Ariz., Aldrich reportedly made passes at several female employees, throwing one of them onto a bed and physically molesting her. ”Conventions are about teasing, sexual kind of stuff,” says an employee, ”but he was crossing the line. He was sticking his hand down blouses and up skirts. So anyway, we all get back from the convention Sunday and on Monday there’s a very weird vibe in the office. The woman had complained that she wanted him out of there, and they did an inquiry.” Says an RCA executive, ”When some double-digit number of women complained, we knew we had to fire him.” Aldrich is now an executive in A&R at Giant Records. A remorseful Aldrich confirmed that he was ”fired from RCA for an incident that happened at a convention that had something to do with sexual harassment.” A spokesman for Aldrich said it is ”important to know it was while he was inebriated,” and he has since entered a drug and alcohol rehabilitation program.

High-powered L.A. lawyer Abe Somer, 53, former head of the music department at the firm of Mitchell, Silberberg & Knupp, recently settled a harassment suit out of court. His former secretary, Phyllis Finkbeiner, complained that Somer instructed her to bring the office mail to his house, where he greeted her naked at the door. A former summer associate at the firm alleged similar treatment in an affidavit supporting the suit. At a poolside meeting at Somer’s home, she said, he told her, ”You seem a little uptight. If Mick Jagger and (producer) Richard Perry were sitting here, I don’t know if they’d be comfortable with you. If they wanted you to kiss them or give them a hand job, you just do it.” Managing partner Bill Cole says Somer no longer has an office at the firm but is retained on ”of counsel” status. Somer is now part of the legal department at Rondor Music Publishing Co.Somer’s attorney speculated that the allegations were ”hearsay from disgruntled former employees.”

These stories certainly imply that women are routinely abused in the music business. They also say that men can be fired if enough women bring charges against them, even though the charges are untested in any court or other formal proceeding. And now that several lawsuits have hit the headlines, it seems the music business has reached a point of no return. But will any changes in the acceptability of babeage translate into real power and freedom for women?

”If we maintain our fearfulness and keep quiet about this,” says a female former executive at a major label, ”things are not going to change.”

She’s afraid to give her name.

— Additional reporting by Cheryl McCall, Joanna Powell, and Jean Rosenbluth



Theresa L. Dowling

@andré pereira Live From The Grayish Carpet

Life on the Other Side of Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll

Blood, Sugar, Sex, Dickheads



It just happened again. I read a news story about Flea playing the national anthem as a bass solo at Kobe’s final game with the Lakers and I went nuts. Every time I’m reminded that the Red Hot Chili Peppers exist, I lose my mind. It’s been a frequent occurence lately. They’re about to release a new record and the promo machine is gearing up.

25 years ago, when I worked at Epic, I had a fucked up experience with the Chili Peppers. The incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s, and I never consciously thought it was that big a deal. I wasn’t even aware of how intensely I hated them  until a couple of months ago, when the kid that works the desk at my gym played “Can’t Stop.”

I was furious;  I felt like my blood had been replaced with a million small bombs and all of them were about to explode.  I threw my weights to the floor mid-rep and pounded to the desk. Just before I screamed the only words I could come up with —  NO. MORE. CHILI. PEPPERS. — I realized I had to leave. I knew I’d be unable to restrain myself if I had to hear Anthony sing  “mop tops are happy when they feed you” or “can’t stop, addicted to the shindig, chop top, he says I’m gonna win big.” When  I calmed down, I thought about how overblown my reaction was, and allowed for the first time that maybe I didn’t hate them simply because they suck.

I heard stories about the Chili Peppers and the way they treated women long before Anthony was convicted of sexual battery and indecent exposure in 1989 and Chad and Flea were arrested for lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct in 1990. No one in the music industry really gave a shit.  As their legal issues made headlines, they  left  EMI, and every label, including Epic,  wanted to sign them. I was horrified.

I initially refused to even go to a meeting with the band. The  A&R guy was a friend, though, and after an hour of talking about it,  I reluctantly agreed to attend.  At the meeting, I did a credible impression of a person who didn’t think the Chili Peppers were complete shit;  I talked enthusiastically about strategy, artist development and press campaigns, and I presented ideas on further establishing their image.  None of them involved wearing socks on their dicks.

After the meeting,  I took two of the Chili Peppers to the storage room, where we kept the box sets and CDs,  to get the standard sign-with-us swag.  As we looked in a cabinet, they pressed up against me and told me about all of the ways we could make a super sexy sandwich.

At first I thought they were joking. When I realized they weren’t, I ran from the storage room to my office, where I closed my door, sat down at my desk, and cried. I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed, and embarrassed that I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed.   I thought I was a badass. Being a victim didn’t fit my self-perception.

When the Chili Peppers’ then-manager knocked on my door a few minutes later, I stopped crying and let him in. He offered an apology that sounded memorized; it was one he’d obviously offered many times before. The A&R guy apologized after the Chili Peppers left, and I decided to get over it.  I told myself that I knew what I was getting into when I started working in the music business. I was used to the shit that happened  late at night,  back in Boston, when I was wasted  and hanging out at gigs and after show parties. I wasn’t cool with any of it, but I accepted it, and even though the incident with the Chili Peppers  took  place when I was an executive at a major label, sober and doing my job at 2:00 in the afternoon, I decided to accept that, too. It was just the way things were.

Most of the women I know who worked in the music business in the late 80s and early 90s put up with sexual harassment. We didn’t talk about it to our friends, for the most part, and not many of us took any action.  We were ashamed or afraid or didn’t think we’d be believed. We thought we’d be blamed, or worse, we blamed ourselves. We didn’t want to be perceived as weak, and we thought that in order to succeed, we just had to put up with it. Sexual harassment came along with working in the music industry — it was an everyday reality — and a lot of us didn’t even realize that anything was wrong. Most of the reasons  we kept quiet will never stop being reasons —  shame and fear aren’t going to go away — but at least now we know when we’re being harassed.

I started writing about sexual harassment in the music industry in January, just after Amber Coffman tweeted about Heathcliff Berru.  I knew I had something to say, but I didn’t realize that it was about the incident with the Chili Peppers until I heard “Don’t Stop” at the gym.   I didn’t understand why my response was so extreme, and then, this weekend,  I talked to people I was close to at Epic.  One was my boss.  I never told him what happened,  and with the exception of two close friends,   I never told anyone else.   And that’s what disturbs me most.

Fuck the Red Hot Chili Peppers and  the misogynistic culture of the music industry that kept me from speaking up in 1991.  I wish I had.  I’m not naive enough to think it would have made much of a difference, but if it kept just one person from having to hear “Californication,” it would have been a start.















Entertainment Weekly



Sexual Harassment: Music

Sexual Harassment: Music



Sexual Harassment: Music -- Our report on the state of the music industry

By Melissa Rawlins Updated December 06, 1991 at 05:00 AM EST





There’s a word for it in the music-video business, where male fantasies of young, compliant women are the very heart of commerce. ”That sexy-babe, bimbo kind of stuff that the labels always want,” says a woman who’s made rock videos for years, ”my friends and I in the industry refer to it as ‘babeage.’ It’s part of just an overwhelming predeliction for sleazy male behavior in this business.”

Babeage. What would rock & roll be without it? Just peek into the fantasy world of music videos. What you see isn’t real, but real people produce those videos, and the often graphic, violent sexuality they contain. So it’s no surprise that babeage is a buzzword. Insiders say that in the world of pop and rock-an insular world ruled by six major recording conglomerates, in which only one woman (Sylvia Rhone, chairman of Atco/East West) is at the top-sexual harassment is not just rampant but epidemic, more pervasive than in any other branch of entertainment.



Theresa L. Dowling

@Bill Carmona Live From The Grayish Carpet

Life on the Other Side of Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll

Blood, Sugar, Sex, Dickheads



It just happened again. I read a news story about Flea playing the national anthem as a bass solo at Kobe’s final game with the Lakers and I went nuts. Every time I’m reminded that the Red Hot Chili Peppers exist, I lose my mind. It’s been a frequent occurence lately. They’re about to release a new record and the promo machine is gearing up.

25 years ago, when I worked at Epic, I had a fucked up experience with the Chili Peppers. The incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s, and I never consciously thought it was that big a deal. I wasn’t even aware of how intensely I hated them  until a couple of months ago, when the kid that works the desk at my gym played “Can’t Stop.”

I was furious;  I felt like my blood had been replaced with a million small bombs and all of them were about to explode.  I threw my weights to the floor mid-rep and pounded to the desk. Just before I screamed the only words I could come up with —  NO. MORE. CHILI. PEPPERS. — I realized I had to leave. I knew I’d be unable to restrain myself if I had to hear Anthony sing  “mop tops are happy when they feed you” or “can’t stop, addicted to the shindig, chop top, he says I’m gonna win big.” When  I calmed down, I thought about how overblown my reaction was, and allowed for the first time that maybe I didn’t hate them simply because they suck.

I heard stories about the Chili Peppers and the way they treated women long before Anthony was convicted of sexual battery and indecent exposure in 1989 and Chad and Flea were arrested for lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct in 1990. No one in the music industry really gave a shit.  As their legal issues made headlines, they  left  EMI, and every label, including Epic,  wanted to sign them. I was horrified.

I initially refused to even go to a meeting with the band. The  A&R guy was a friend, though, and after an hour of talking about it,  I reluctantly agreed to attend.  At the meeting, I did a credible impression of a person who didn’t think the Chili Peppers were complete shit;  I talked enthusiastically about strategy, artist development and press campaigns, and I presented ideas on further establishing their image.  None of them involved wearing socks on their dicks.

After the meeting,  I took two of the Chili Peppers to the storage room, where we kept the box sets and CDs,  to get the standard sign-with-us swag.  As we looked in a cabinet, they pressed up against me and told me about all of the ways we could make a super sexy sandwich.

At first I thought they were joking. When I realized they weren’t, I ran from the storage room to my office, where I closed my door, sat down at my desk, and cried. I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed, and embarrassed that I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed.   I thought I was a badass. Being a victim didn’t fit my self-perception.

When the Chili Peppers’ then-manager knocked on my door a few minutes later, I stopped crying and let him in. He offered an apology that sounded memorized; it was one he’d obviously offered many times before. The A&R guy apologized after the Chili Peppers left, and I decided to get over it.  I told myself that I knew what I was getting into when I started working in the music business. I was used to the shit that happened  late at night,  back in Boston, when I was wasted  and hanging out at gigs and after show parties. I wasn’t cool with any of it, but I accepted it, and even though the incident with the Chili Peppers  took  place when I was an executive at a major label, sober and doing my job at 2:00 in the afternoon, I decided to accept that, too. It was just the way things were.

Most of the women I know who worked in the music business in the late 80s and early 90s put up with sexual harassment. We didn’t talk about it to our friends, for the most part, and not many of us took any action.  We were ashamed or afraid or didn’t think we’d be believed. We thought we’d be blamed, or worse, we blamed ourselves. We didn’t want to be perceived as weak, and we thought that in order to succeed, we just had to put up with it. Sexual harassment came along with working in the music industry — it was an everyday reality — and a lot of us didn’t even realize that anything was wrong. Most of the reasons  we kept quiet will never stop being reasons —  shame and fear aren’t going to go away — but at least now we know when we’re being harassed.

I started writing about sexual harassment in the music industry in January, just after Amber Coffman tweeted about Heathcliff Berru.  I knew I had something to say, but I didn’t realize that it was about the incident with the Chili Peppers until I heard “Don’t Stop” at the gym.   I didn’t understand why my response was so extreme, and then, this weekend,  I talked to people I was close to at Epic.  One was my boss.  I never told him what happened,  and with the exception of two close friends,   I never told anyone else.   And that’s what disturbs me most.

Fuck the Red Hot Chili Peppers and  the misogynistic culture of the music industry that kept me from speaking up in 1991.  I wish I had.  I’m not naive enough to think it would have made much of a difference, but if it kept just one person from having to hear “Californication,” it would have been a start.



Theresa L. Dowling

@John Brown Live From The Grayish Carpet

Life on the Other Side of Sex, Drugs, and Rock and Roll

Blood, Sugar, Sex, Dickheads



It just happened again. I read a news story about Flea playing the national anthem as a bass solo at Kobe’s final game with the Lakers and I went nuts. Every time I’m reminded that the Red Hot Chili Peppers exist, I lose my mind. It’s been a frequent occurence lately. They’re about to release a new record and the promo machine is gearing up.

25 years ago, when I worked at Epic, I had a fucked up experience with the Chili Peppers. The incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s, and I never consciously thought it was that big a deal. I wasn’t even aware of how intensely I hated them  until a couple of months ago, when the kid that works the desk at my gym played “Can’t Stop.”

I was furious;  I felt like my blood had been replaced with a million small bombs and all of them were about to explode.  I threw my weights to the floor mid-rep and pounded to the desk. Just before I screamed the only words I could come up with —  NO. MORE. CHILI. PEPPERS. — I realized I had to leave. I knew I’d be unable to restrain myself if I had to hear Anthony sing  “mop tops are happy when they feed you” or “can’t stop, addicted to the shindig, chop top, he says I’m gonna win big.” When  I calmed down, I thought about how overblown my reaction was, and allowed for the first time that maybe I didn’t hate them simply because they suck.

I heard stories about the Chili Peppers and the way they treated women long before Anthony was convicted of sexual battery and indecent exposure in 1989 and Chad and Flea were arrested for lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct in 1990. No one in the music industry really gave a shit.  As their legal issues made headlines, they  left  EMI, and every label, including Epic,  wanted to sign them. I was horrified.

I initially refused to even go to a meeting with the band. The  A&R guy was a friend, though, and after an hour of talking about it,  I reluctantly agreed to attend.  At the meeting, I did a credible impression of a person who didn’t think the Chili Peppers were complete shit;  I talked enthusiastically about strategy, artist development and press campaigns, and I presented ideas on further establishing their image.  None of them involved wearing socks on their dicks.

After the meeting,  I took two of the Chili Peppers to the storage room, where we kept the box sets and CDs,  to get the standard sign-with-us swag.  As we looked in a cabinet, they pressed up against me and told me about all of the ways we could make a super sexy sandwich.

At first I thought they were joking. When I realized they weren’t, I ran from the storage room to my office, where I closed my door, sat down at my desk, and cried. I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed, and embarrassed that I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed.   I thought I was a badass. Being a victim didn’t fit my self-perception.

When the Chili Peppers’ then-manager knocked on my door a few minutes later, I stopped crying and let him in. He offered an apology that sounded memorized; it was one he’d obviously offered many times before. The A&R guy apologized after the Chili Peppers left, and I decided to get over it.  I told myself that I knew what I was getting into when I started working in the music business. I was used to the shit that happened  late at night,  back in Boston, when I was wasted  and hanging out at gigs and after show parties. I wasn’t cool with any of it, but I accepted it, and even though the incident with the Chili Peppers  took  place when I was an executive at a major label, sober and doing my job at 2:00 in the afternoon, I decided to accept that, too. It was just the way things were.

Most of the women I know who worked in the music business in the late 80s and early 90s put up with sexual harassment. We didn’t talk about it to our friends, for the most part, and not many of us took any action.  We were ashamed or afraid or didn’t think we’d be believed. We thought we’d be blamed, or worse, we blamed ourselves. We didn’t want to be perceived as weak, and we thought that in order to succeed, we just had to put up with it. Sexual harassment came along with working in the music industry — it was an everyday reality — and a lot of us didn’t even realize that anything was wrong. Most of the reasons  we kept quiet will never stop being reasons —  shame and fear aren’t going to go away — but at least now we know when we’re being harassed.

I started writing about sexual harassment in the music industry in January, just after Amber Coffman tweeted about Heathcliff Berru.  I knew I had something to say, but I didn’t realize that it was about the incident with the Chili Peppers until I heard “Don’t Stop” at the gym.   I didn’t understand why my response was so extreme, and then, this weekend,  I talked to people I was close to at Epic.  One was my boss.  I never told him what happened,  and with the exception of two close friends,   I never told anyone else.   And that’s what disturbs me most.

Fuck the Red Hot Chili Peppers and  the misogynistic culture of the music industry that kept me from speaking up in 1991.  I wish I had.  I’m not naive enough to think it would have made much of a difference, but if it kept just one person from having to hear “Californication,” it would have been a start.



Theresa L. Dowling

@c0rnholio Blood, Sugar, Sex, Dickheads

It just happened again. I read a news story about Flea playing the national anthem as a bass solo at Kobe’s final game with the Lakers and I went nuts. Every time I’m reminded that the Red Hot Chili Peppers exist, I lose my mind. It’s been a frequent occurence lately. They’re about to release a new record and the promo machine is gearing up.

25 years ago, when I worked at Epic, I had a fucked up experience with the Chili Peppers. The incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s, and I never consciously thought it was that big a deal. I wasn’t even aware of how intensely I hated them  until a couple of months ago, when the kid that works the desk at my gym played “Can’t Stop.”

I was furious;  I felt like my blood had been replaced with a million small bombs and all of them were about to explode.  I threw my weights to the floor mid-rep and pounded to the desk. Just before I screamed the only words I could come up with —  NO. MORE. CHILI. PEPPERS. — I realized I had to leave. I knew I’d be unable to restrain myself if I had to hear Anthony sing  “mop tops are happy when they feed you” or “can’t stop, addicted to the shindig, chop top, he says I’m gonna win big.” When  I calmed down, I thought about how overblown my reaction was, and allowed for the first time that maybe I didn’t hate them simply because they suck.

I heard stories about the Chili Peppers and the way they treated women long before Anthony was convicted of sexual battery and indecent exposure in 1989 and Chad and Flea were arrested for lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct in 1990. No one in the music industry really gave a shit.  As their legal issues made headlines, they  left  EMI, and every label, including Epic,  wanted to sign them. I was horrified.

I initially refused to even go to a meeting with the band. The  A&R guy was a friend, though, and after an hour of talking about it,  I reluctantly agreed to attend.  At the meeting, I did a credible impression of a person who didn’t think the Chili Peppers were complete shit;  I talked enthusiastically about strategy, artist development and press campaigns, and I presented ideas on further establishing their image.  None of them involved wearing socks on their dicks.

After the meeting,  I took two of the Chili Peppers to the storage room, where we kept the box sets and CDs,  to get the standard sign-with-us swag.  As we looked in a cabinet, they pressed up against me and told me about all of the ways we could make a super sexy sandwich.

At first I thought they were joking. When I realized they weren’t, I ran from the storage room to my office, where I closed my door, sat down at my desk, and cried. I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed, and embarrassed that I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed.   I thought I was a badass. Being a victim didn’t fit my self-perception.

When the Chili Peppers’ then-manager knocked on my door a few minutes later, I stopped crying and let him in. He offered an apology that sounded memorized; it was one he’d obviously offered many times before. The A&R guy apologized after the Chili Peppers left, and I decided to get over it.  I told myself that I knew what I was getting into when I started working in the music business. I was used to the shit that happened  late at night,  back in Boston, when I was wasted  and hanging out at gigs and after show parties. I wasn’t cool with any of it, but I accepted it, and even though the incident with the Chili Peppers  took  place when I was an executive at a major label, sober and doing my job at 2:00 in the afternoon, I decided to accept that, too. It was just the way things were.

Most of the women I know who worked in the music business in the late 80s and early 90s put up with sexual harassment. We didn’t talk about it to our friends, for the most part, and not many of us took any action.  We were ashamed or afraid or didn’t think we’d be believed. We thought we’d be blamed, or worse, we blamed ourselves. We didn’t want to be perceived as weak, and we thought that in order to succeed, we just had to put up with it. Sexual harassment came along with working in the music industry — it was an everyday reality — and a lot of us didn’t even realize that anything was wrong. Most of the reasons  we kept quiet will never stop being reasons —  shame and fear aren’t going to go away — but at least now we know when we’re being harassed.

I started writing about sexual harassment in the music industry in January, just after Amber Coffman tweeted about Heathcliff Berru.  I knew I had something to say, but I didn’t realize that it was about the incident with the Chili Peppers until I heard “Don’t Stop” at the gym.   I didn’t understand why my response was so extreme, and then, this weekend,  I talked to people I was close to at Epic.  One was my boss.  I never told him what happened,  and with the exception of two close friends,   I never told anyone else.   And that’s what disturbs me most.

Fuck the Red Hot Chili Peppers and  the misogynistic culture of the music industry that kept me from speaking up in 1991.  I wish I had.  I’m not naive enough to think it would have made much of a difference, but if it kept just one person from having to hear “Californication,” it would have been a start.



lol funny i laughed

My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will

Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Imagine me taught by tragedy
Release is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said
Was something beautiful
To give, your love
No matter what
Yeah, what she said

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself



Lars S M  ツ 

🐾
Mis amigos estan tan deprimidos
My friends are so depressed

Siento la pregunta
I feel the question

De tu soledad
Of your loneliness

Confía, porque estaré de tu lado
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side

Sabes que lo haré, sabes que lo haré
You know I will, you know I will

Ex novia me llamó
Ex girlfriend called me up

Solo y desesperado
Alone and desperate

En el teléfono de la prisión
On the prison phone

Quieren darle siete años.
They want, to give her seven years

Por estar triste
For being sad

Los amo a todos ustedes
I love all of you

Herido por el frio
Hurt by the cold

Tan duro y solo también
So hard and lonely too

Cuando no te conoces
When you don't know yourself

Mis amigos están muy angustiados
My friends are so distressed

Y parado en
And standing on

Al borde del vacío
The brink of emptiness

No hay palabras, sé de expresar
No words, I know of to express

Este vacío
This emptiness

Los amo a todos ustedes
I love all of you

Herido por el frio
Hurt by the cold

Tan duro y solo también
So hard and lonely too

Cuando no te conoces
When you don't know yourself

Imaginame enseñado por la tragedia
Imagine me taught by tragedy

Liberar es paz
Release is peace

Escuché una niña
I heard a little girl

Y lo que ella dijo
And what she said

Fue algo hermoso
Was something beautiful

Para dar tu amor
To give, your love

No importa qué
No matter what

Si lo que ella dijo
Yeah, what she said

Los amo a todos ustedes
I love all of you

Herido por el frio
Hurt by the cold

Tan duro y solo también
So hard and lonely too

Cuando no te conoces
When you don't know yourself
💚🇨🇴



Theresa L. Dowling

Did you know that three of the guys in RHCP have been arrested or convicted of sex crimes, and Anthony Keidis is a child rapist according to his autobiography but was never charged? 

 UPI ARCHIVES APRIL 3, 1990

Singer Anthony Kiedis convicted of sexual battery, indecent exposure



FAIRFAX, Va. -- The lead singer of the rock group Red Hot Chili Peppers was convicted Tuesday of sexual battery and indecent exposure after a concert in suburban Washington, D.C.

Anthony Kiedis, 27, of Los Angeles, was accused of touching a woman's face with his penis after a concert at George Mason University in Fairfax County on April 21, 1989.

The woman, a student at GMU who served on the university's program board, said the incident occurred outside the band's dressing room after the concert.

Circuit Court jurors recommended that Kiedis be fined $1,000 on each charge. He could have received up to 60 days in jail.

Judge Michael McWeeny set sentencing for Friday. Under Virginia law, McWeeny can impose the jury's recommendation or reduce it, but he cannot increase it.

The Circuit Court trial was an appeal of a ruling by a lower court judge, who found Kiedis guilty of both charges and sentenced him to 60 days in jail.

Kiedis denied ever touching the woman but others said they saw the incident and a band member admitted he made an encouraging statement.

Fans of the rock band, whose music is described as 'white funk,' packed the courtroom during the two days of testimony.

The band's latest album, 'Mother's Milk,' includes the hit songs 'Knock Me Down,' and a remake of the Stevie Wonder tune 'Higher Ground.'

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2 IN BAND ARRESTED AFTER ATTACKING FAN



March 17, 1990


Shirish Date Of The Sentinel Staff

THE ORLANDO SENTINEL




True to their name, the Red Hot Chili Peppers were hot - so hot that they trashed their stage, then jumped into the crowd to manhandle a bikini-clad woman during an MTV taping on the beach.

Police weren't amused.

Neither was MTV, which threw the band off the set. And neither was the 20-year-old Virginia woman, who filed charges against two band members.

Defenders of the Red Hot Chili Peppers say Wednesday afternoon's episode at an MTV taping was just part of its image, which sometimes includes taking the stage wearing nothing more than strategically placed socks or diapers.



Maybe. But early Friday morning, the Volusia County Beach Rangers decided that arresting bass guitarist Flea and drummer Chad Smith and charging them with lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct were part of the rangers' image.

"I'm not going to put up with it," said Ranger Chief Jon Kirvan, hours after arresting half the band's members about 1 a.m. Friday after a concert at the Marriott Hotel. "That could be your daughter."

Wednesday's melee took place during MTV's taping for its Club MTV dance program. The band was lip-syncing the song "Knock Me Down" when Flea - whose real name is Michael Balzary - started banging his bass guitar against Chad Smith's drum kit, according to police, who seemed to have a tough time making sense of the punk band's show.

"At the end of a set, the band members started jumping around on stage, pushing microphones to the stage floor, swinging instruments around, knocking over the drums and making a comment about the police that was not fully heard by this writer," wrote Daytona police Sgt. Robert Grim.

"One of the band members with a shaved-type head with a multicolored bush of hair centered on top of his head picked up a white female victim, placing her over his shoulders," Grim wrote.

Smith joined Flea, and pulled the woman's bathing suit bottom partially off and started slapping her buttocks, according to Beach Ranger Guy Grasso's report.

At that point, the woman fell to the sand, only to have Flea kneel atop her, start grabbing at her, and demand that she perform oral sex on him, Grasso's report said.

MTV security pulled Flea off and escorted him and Smith off property of the Texan Motel, MTV's base during spring break.



Kirvan said his officers talked to the woman Thursday and got arrest warrants Thursday night from Circuit Judge Robert Miller.

"Last night after their performance - if you want to call it that - we served the warrants and arrested them," Kirvan said. "If somebody assaults somebody, we're going to do something."

Flea, 26, was charged with battery, disorderly conduct and solicitation to commit an unnatural and lascivious act and released on $2,000 bail. Smith, 28, was charged with battery and released on $1,000 bail. All the charges are misdemeanors.

Neither Flea nor Smith could be reached for comment Friday.

The woman declined comment.



This band had charges in 3 states in 1996 for sex crimes against women employed to work at their concerts ( It was on MTV America News)==



Theresa L. Dowling

Sexual Harassment: Music -- Our report on the state of the music industry

By Melissa Rawlins Updated December 06, 1991 at 05:00 AM EST



There’s a word for it in the music-video business, where male fantasies of young, compliant women are the very heart of commerce. ”That sexy-babe, bimbo kind of stuff that the labels always want,” says a woman who’s made rock videos for years, ”my friends and I in the industry refer to it as ‘babeage.’ It’s part of just an overwhelming predeliction for sleazy male behavior in this business.”

Babeage. What would rock & roll be without it? Just peek into the fantasy world of music videos. What you see isn’t real, but real people produce those videos, and the often graphic, violent sexuality they contain. So it’s no surprise that babeage is a buzzword. Insiders say that in the world of pop and rock-an insular world ruled by six major recording conglomerates, in which only one woman (Sylvia Rhone, chairman of Atco/East West) is at the top-sexual harassment is not just rampant but epidemic, more pervasive than in any other branch of entertainment.



Ugly stories come not just from the lowly but from people at all levels of the business. There’s Mary Cary, guitarist for Rosary, a female hard-rock band, describing a pawing studio owner who demanded sex in exchange for recording time. ”He told us that if we slept with him, he would get us a label deal, and he was just a sleazy little studio guy with no power.” And the notoriously raunchy band the Red Hot Chili Peppers, reversing the roles in an interview for Creem with journalist Nina Malkin, bombarded her with lewd questions about her sex life. (”They were just goofing,” their manager says.) At a radio industry convention last year, top radio consultant Randy Michaels hired a stripper, disguised as a waitress, to have her shirt ripped off during a panel on contemporary hit radio. And an executive at a major label made assignments to employees while playing pornographic tapes on his VCR — ”He did it just to humiliate us,” one woman said.

”The industry promotes the bimbo image very well,” says an ex-label executive, who left the business because of what she characterized as its unacceptably sexist environment. ”The man in music spends his day promoting bimbos on album covers, and the women in the office are viewed as just more of those bimbos. Not all men see it this way, obviously. But the violence is there. In this business, people are reduced to things, and it’s awful.”



That’s an attitude that often starts near the very top — in the offices, say, of an Abbey Konowitch, 40, who in the mid-’80s was vice president for video and artist development for Arista Records. In July 1987, Arista promoted a woman named Joanne Smat into Konowitch’s department, as national manager of artist development. Although several women alleged to Entertainment Weekly reporters that Konowitch verbally abused female coworkers, Smat is the only one willing to go on the record with charges. Because she has since married and left the music business to become an advertising executive, she no longer feels her career is threatened. Other sources, male and female, have confirmed Smat’s story but stressed that if Konowitch found out their names, their careers would be ruined.







“After a very short time it became apparent that there was a certain way Abbey operated, and that I was not going to be able to handle it,” says Smat. His method of operation, she says, included repeatedly asking such questions as ”Can I bite you?” ”Can I touch your thigh?” ”Can I bite your ass?” According to Smat, he predicted that she would sleep with him on a company trip to Maui. She decided to stay home. The day Konowitch began instructing an intern in ”shooting rubber bands at my ass,” Smat says, she was so fed up she walked out of the office.

She says she asked a female executive for advice and was sent to a vice president. He said he’d give her a transfer, effectively a demotion, to a secretarial position. In November 1987, she consulted lawyer Michael Holland.

”He knew of other cases where women had been physically fondled and the lawyers weren’t able to make (the charges) stick because of difficulties of proof,” she says. ”He basically said the law doesn’t work and you don’t have a choice.” ”I advised her that since she was considering other career options anyway, maybe she should just move on,” confirms Holland. Smat resigned in January 1988.

Konowitch declines to comment. His attorney denies Smat’s allegations and claims Arista has no record of any formal complaints or discussions of Smat’s charges. A woman who worked with Smat and Konowitch maintains, however, that there were several formal meetings between Smat and a top Arista manager. ”One of the vice presidents,” she says, ”called up every woman who worked with Abbey and said, ‘Does he really do these kinds of things?’ And all of us said yes. Their solution was to ask us if we wanted to transfer to other departments.”



Dr. MJC

My friends are so depressed
I feel the question of your loneliness
Confide 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will
Ex-girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate on the prison phone
They want to give her 7 years
For being sad
[Chorus:]
I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely, too
When you don't know yourself
My friends are so distressed
And standing on the brink of emptiness
No words I know of to express
This emptiness
[Chorus]
Imagine me
Taught by tragedy
Release
Is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said was something beautiful
"To give your love no matter what."
Is what she said.
[Chorus]



Dusty the 2nd

This song "My Friends" and "Under The Bridge" are my 2 fav songs from RHCP! Each for diff reasons. Here are the lyrics for us, I am sure you all know them, But here they go:

My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will

Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself

Imagine me taught by tragedy
Release is peace
I heard a little girl
And what she said
Was something beautiful
To give, your love
No matter what
Yeah, what she said

I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself




I so love the lyrics. They are so on time. I can relate.



Theresa L. Dowling

At what price?
Blood, Sugar, Sex, Dickheads


It just happened again. I read a news story about Flea playing the national anthem as a bass solo at Kobe’s final game with the Lakers and I went nuts. Every time I’m reminded that the Red Hot Chili Peppers exist, I lose my mind. It’s been a frequent occurence lately. They’re about to release a new record and the promo machine is gearing up.

25 years ago, when I worked at Epic, I had a fucked up experience with the Chili Peppers. The incident was about a 3 on the 1-10 scale of sexual harassment in the music business of the 80s and 90s, and I never consciously thought it was that big a deal. I wasn’t even aware of how intensely I hated them  until a couple of months ago, when the kid that works the desk at my gym played “Can’t Stop.”

I was furious;  I felt like my blood had been replaced with a million small bombs and all of them were about to explode.  I threw my weights to the floor mid-rep and pounded to the desk. Just before I screamed the only words I could come up with —  NO. MORE. CHILI. PEPPERS. — I realized I had to leave. I knew I’d be unable to restrain myself if I had to hear Anthony sing  “mop tops are happy when they feed you” or “can’t stop, addicted to the shindig, chop top, he says I’m gonna win big.” When  I calmed down, I thought about how overblown my reaction was, and allowed for the first time that maybe I didn’t hate them simply because they suck.

I heard stories about the Chili Peppers and the way they treated women long before Anthony was convicted of sexual battery and indecent exposure in 1989 and Chad and Flea were arrested for lascivious behavior, battery and disorderly conduct in 1990. No one in the music industry really gave a shit.  As their legal issues made headlines, they  left  EMI, and every label, including Epic,  wanted to sign them. I was horrified.

I initially refused to even go to a meeting with the band. The  A&R guy was a friend, though, and after an hour of talking about it,  I reluctantly agreed to attend.  At the meeting, I did a credible impression of a person who didn’t think the Chili Peppers were complete shit;  I talked enthusiastically about strategy, artist development and press campaigns, and I presented ideas on further establishing their image.  None of them involved wearing socks on their dicks.

After the meeting,  I took two of the Chili Peppers to the storage room, where we kept the box sets and CDs,  to get the standard sign-with-us swag.  As we looked in a cabinet, they pressed up against me and told me about all of the ways we could make a super sexy sandwich.

At first I thought they were joking. When I realized they weren’t, I ran from the storage room to my office, where I closed my door, sat down at my desk, and cried. I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed, and embarrassed that I was humiliated and weirdly ashamed.   I thought I was a badass. Being a victim didn’t fit my self-perception.

When the Chili Peppers’ then-manager knocked on my door a few minutes later, I stopped crying and let him in. He offered an apology that sounded memorized; it was one he’d obviously offered many times before. The A&R guy apologized after the Chili Peppers left, and I decided to get over it.  I told myself that I knew what I was getting into when I started working in the music business. I was used to the shit that happened  late at night,  back in Boston, when I was wasted  and hanging out at gigs and after show parties. I wasn’t cool with any of it, but I accepted it, and even though the incident with the Chili Peppers  took  place when I was an executive at a major label, sober and doing my job at 2:00 in the afternoon, I decided to accept that, too. It was just the way things were.

Most of the women I know who worked in the music business in the late 80s and early 90s put up with sexual harassment. We didn’t talk about it to our friends, for the most part, and not many of us took any action.  We were ashamed or afraid or didn’t think we’d be believed. We thought we’d be blamed, or worse, we blamed ourselves. We didn’t want to be perceived as weak, and we thought that in order to succeed, we just had to put up with it. Sexual harassment came along with working in the music industry — it was an everyday reality — and a lot of us didn’t even realize that anything was wrong. Most of the reasons  we kept quiet will never stop being reasons —  shame and fear aren’t going to go away — but at least now we know when we’re being harassed.

I started writing about sexual harassment in the music industry in January, just after Amber Coffman tweeted about Heathcliff Berru.  I knew I had something to say, but I didn’t realize that it was about the incident with the Chili Peppers until I heard “Don’t Stop” at the gym.   I didn’t understand why my response was so extreme, and then, this weekend,  I talked to people I was close to at Epic.  One was my boss.  I never told him what happened,  and with the exception of two close friends,   I never told anyone else.   And that’s what disturbs me most.

Fuck the Red Hot Chili Peppers and  the misogynistic culture of the music industry that kept me from speaking up in 1991.  I wish I had.  I’m not naive enough to think it would have made much of a difference, but if it kept just one person from having to hear “Californication,” it would have been a start.



Danilo Sant'Ana

My friends are so depressed
I feel the question
Of your loneliness
Confide, 'cause I'll be on your side
You know I will, you know I will
Ex girlfriend called me up
Alone and desperate
On the prison phone
They want, to give her seven years
For being sad
I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself
My friends are so distressed
And standing on
The brink of emptiness
No words, I know of to express
This emptiness
I love all of you
Hurt by the cold
So hard and lonely too
When you don't know yourself



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The Maskarado ™

Adoroo <3

Lucas Gabriel

Simmmmmmmmmm!

Eduarda Gonçalves

The Maskarado ™ tambem

The Trucker-Pilot

The Maskarado ™ I love ! Yeah !

Adrian Robertson

This song was played at my friends funeral. He was hit by a car when we were 13 im 36 now. this song helps keep his memory alive for me. I miss my friend...R.I.P Robert Shephard.

Raymundo Austria

@T Dowling ya know you don't belong here his friend literally died and you just go here promoting your YouTube channel go away.

Runnin Amuck

R.I.P. Mr Shepard. Sleep with angels, and never know pain again.

Cande Dias

Wow ❤️rip

Adrian Robertson

@ዕጋዕዐጠክጎርጕቿረነ Thanks... I think every song can do this and that's what makes music so special..

ዕጋዕዐጠክጎርጕቿረነ

Well shit I didn’t know this song could carry such a memory Rip to your friend

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