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1) Heart is an American rock band formed in 1970 in Seattle, Washington, by Steve Fossen (bass guitar), Roger Fisher (guitar), David Belzer (keyboards), and Jeff Johnson (drums). It evolved from an existing band, White Heart. The vocalists for Heart are sisters Ann Wilson (lead vocals, flute, guitar) (born June 19, 1950) and Nancy Wilson (vocals, guitar, mandolin) (born March 16, 1954).

Heart rose to fame in the mid-to-late-1970s with music influenced by hard rock and heavy metal, as well as folk music. The band's popularity declined in the early 1980s, but it began a successful comeback in 1985 which continued into the mid-1990s. Heart disbanded in 1998, resumed performing in 2002, went on hiatus in 2016, and resumed performing in the summer of 2019. Heart's U.S. Top 40 singles include "Magic Man" (1975), "Crazy on You" (1976), "Barracuda" (1977), "What About Love" (1985), "Never" (1985), and "All I Wanna Do Is Make Love to You" (1990), along with no. 1 hits "These Dreams" (1986) and "Alone" (1987).

Heart has sold over 35 million records worldwide, including approximately 22.5 million albums in the United States. It has placed top 10 albums on the Billboard 200 in the 1970s, 1980s, 1990 and 2010s. Heart was ranked number 57 on VH1's "100 Greatest Artists of Hard Rock". In 2013, Heart was inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame.

In 2011, Heart earned its first nomination for induction into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame for the 2012 class. After being passed over, the band was nominated again the following year announced as inductees to the 2013 class on December 11, 2012. Their Hall of Fame page describes the Wilson sisters as the first women to front a hard-rock band, and "pioneers ... inspiring women to pick up an electric guitar or start a band".

In his book Heart: In the Studio, Jake Brown described the band as beginning "a revolution for women in music ... breaking genre barriers and garnering critical acclaim".

"Heart were the first female-fronted band I heard and was influenced by," recalled Lzzy Hale of Halestorm. "I heard Heart and was like, 'Oh, singing like that as a girl is actually a thing!'"

The Wilson sisters have been active in the Seattle music scene for decades and influenced many musicians from the region, including bands of the grunge era. Artists that have used their Bad Animals Studio include Neil Young, R.E.M., Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, and Alice in Chains.

2) HeaRt is a Japanese rock band.

They are a group made up from old members of the LOOP ASH band, JOKER who formed officially on the 7/7/05. JOKER's vocalist, Toge, changed his name to Byou and is now the vocalist of SCREW.

The Members are as follows.
Vocalist = Jun
Guitarist = Nono
Bassist = Hiiro
Drummer = YUKI

They had two guitarists at one point, however, he [Subaru] left the band in 2006.

Fans of the Japanese band should tag them in unicode: ＨｅａＲｔ

3) A (very) short-lived Dutch glam rock band, who enjoyed (very) modest chart success in The Netherlands with 'Love Maker' (#28 in July 1974). The group was fronted by singer Patricia Paay, who - after the demise of Heart - started a successful solo career as a pop singer.

Break
Heart Lyrics

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Yeah
You got these poems coming, flowing out
The feeling’s strong
Don’t know what’s happening, baby
But I know you’ll sing along
Slow dancing on the bed we shared
To fucking hip hop songs
And I know we’re spinning out

Let’s end it now, this shit is wrong
But coming back to it
She has to, it’s not up to us
Logic ain’t no reason
Stop me leaving like that’s not too rough
She’s got a plan
She wants to stand up here and hold me tight
But how’s that work
When you’re with others every other night?
Every other night I try
But I can’t convince my eyes
To see what I wanna see
You’re trapped inside your own disguise
I’ll be better when you break for me
Nights out, I get it, I get it
You don’t even like your friends
Just stop that bitching in my ear
About how hard it is
I’m here, just tryna find the time to call you back
No regrets
I just wanna tell you not to be upset
Shit
Bet you never thought this would be the ending you got
Always talking shit behind their backs
It says a lot
Never knew the right time to take your shot
If you think this song’s about you, baby
I promise it’s not
Every other night I try
But I can’t convince my eyes
To see what I wanna see
You’re trapped inside your own disguise
I’ll be better when you break for me
Time will pass and heal these scars
The pain from being torn apart
Don’t you try to say goodbye
I’ll be better when you break for me
What’s up?
The hell is that noise?
Oh, it’s cats fighting

Ooh, they fighting?
Square up

Overall Meaning

The song "Break" by Heart is a reflection on a turbulent relationship between two people. The lyrics describe a situation where one person is deeply invested in the relationship and willing to go to great lengths to make it work, while the other seems unable to commit fully. The opening lines, "You got these poems coming, flowing out, the feeling's strong" suggest that one person is trying to express their emotions through writing. The line "Don't know what's happening, baby, but I know you'll sing along" implies that the other person is aware of the depth of feeling and may be moved by it, even if they can't fully articulate their own feelings.

The chorus repeats the lines "Every other night I try, but I can't convince my eyes, to see what I wanna see, you're trapped inside your own disguise". This suggests that the other person is hiding their true feelings or intentions behind a façade, and that the singer is frustrated by their inability to break through to the real person underneath. The lines "I'll be better when you break for me" suggest that the singer is willing to wait for the other person to come around, but that they need to see some evidence of change before they can fully commit.

The final lines, "Time will pass and heal these scars, the pain from being torn apart, don't you try to say goodbye, I'll be better when you break for me" suggest that the singer is resigned to the fact that the relationship is going to be hard, but that they are willing to weather the storm in order to be with the other person. Overall, the song is a poignant reflection on the complexity of relationships and the emotional struggles that come with them.

Line by Line Meaning

Yeah
Expressing excitement and engagement with the matter at hand

You got these poems coming, flowing out
Acknowledging the creative output of the other person

The feeling’s strong
The emotions involved are intense

Don’t know what’s happening, baby
Uncertainty about the current situation

But I know you’ll sing along
Assuming that the other person will follow suit

Slow dancing on the bed we shared
Remembering intimate moments with the other person

To fucking hip hop songs
Providing a detail about the memory

And I know we’re spinning out
Acknowledging the instability of the current situation

Let’s end it now, this shit is wrong
Proposing to end the relationship due to its negative aspects

But coming back to it
Contradicting the previous statement

She has to, it’s not up to us
Stating the inevitability of the decision to stay together

Logic ain’t no reason
Disregarding rationality in favor of emotions

Stop me leaving like that’s not too rough
Demanding a reevaluation of the current situation

She’s got a plan
Ascribing agency to the other person

She wants to stand up here and hold me tight
Expressing the desire for physical closeness with the other person

But how’s that work
Questioning the feasibility of the desire

When you’re with others every other night?
Highlighting the other person's unfaithfulness

Every other night I try
Expressing the effort put into the relationship by the singer

But I can’t convince my eyes
Acknowledging the difficulty of accepting the other person's behavior

To see what I wanna see
Desiring a different reality

You’re trapped inside your own disguise
Believing that the other person is not true to themselves

I’ll be better when you break for me
Expressing the hope that the other person ends the relationship

Nights out, I get it, I get it
Acknowledging the other person's social life

You don’t even like your friends
Asserting knowledge about the other person's personal life

Just stop that bitching in my ear
Asking the other person to end their negative commentary

About how hard it is
Identifying the subject of the negative commentary

I’m here, just tryna find the time to call you back
Explaining the singer's priorities

No regrets
Asserting the lack of remorse about the relationship

I just wanna tell you not to be upset
Wishing for the other person to be happy

Shit
Exclamation of frustration

Bet you never thought this would be the ending you got
Offering a surprise ending to the relationship

Always talking shit behind their backs
Calling out the other person for being a gossip

It says a lot
Interpreting the gossipy behavior as revealing something important

Never knew the right time to take your shot
Recognizing missed opportunities in the relationship

If you think this song’s about you, baby
Addressing a potential interpretation by the other person

I promise it’s not
Denying the association of the song with the other person

Time will pass and heal these scars
Expressing hope that the emotional wounds will eventually fade

The pain from being torn apart
Referencing the harm caused by the break-up

Don’t you try to say goodbye
Addressing a potential interaction with the other person

I’ll be better when you break for me
Offering another expression of hope for the other person to end the relationship

What’s up?
Engaging in casual conversation

The hell is that noise?
Asking about a loud sound

Oh, it’s cats fighting
Identifying the source of the noise

Ooh, they fighting?
Expressing some amusement

Square up
Challenging the fighting cats to a brawl

Lyrics © DistroKid
Written by: Brandon Reid, Draven Potoi

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Comments from YouTube:

@31Alden

19w↑128

Available mentally, emotionally, physically …. and do not overlook LEGALLY.

@kari5709

6w↑3

YES 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@lb2696

4w↑4

Sigh…

@Habeas_Corpus_indefinite

lol what does this mean? I’d assume we’re all talking about adults here…

@Rissy617

@@Habeas_Corpus_indefinitelegally divorced? Not just separated or in divorce process im assuming

@mrnice7570

Of a certain minimum age

@cherylbubba

20w↑591

Not everyone who's not over someone rambles on about an ex. Sometimes it's the opposite. They never discuss the person. They hide how "not over" the person they are. That's also something to watch out for.

@UnfazedPhoenix

19w↑75

Facts. Refusal to talk about the past or exes is also another red flag.

@TheVeggiekat

19w↑33

I think that’s what my new guy is doing. He says he believes in living in the moment but he never says anything about his past.

@henrycooper4213

19w

@@UnfazedPhoenixthat is what you call a healthy brain not living in the past holding on to baggage. People here are all so low iq and read to much gossip magazines.

@lynzypooh80

19w↑2

💯

@ainnunyabidniz

19w↑23

@@TheVeggiekat sounds like he's hiding from his past. not sure what from, he just doesn't want to look at it

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@DiaMul

12w↑74

Walking away is extremely powerful. I experienced it from the other side: I was not fully over my ex, I realised it and communicated it to the guy I was seeing (for like a month). He set his boundary and simply left. This blew my mind, created huge respect towards him, and it even inspired me to work even harder on moving on. Seeing someone this mature, someone with healthy boundaries is actually very motivating, it reminds me that there are guys out there for whom it's worth it to be finally over my ex. 🙏

@HeavenlyLights

4w↑3

BEST comment

@barbaraalden6013

3w↑1

Kudos! Wisdom...😊

@xxsnow_angelxx3953

11w↑55

“If they’re not physically available it doesn’t matter how much connection or attraction there is.” -Mathew

@angelaboyle233

BTW I love watching your videos @ Matthew Hussey.

@lb2696

4w↑1

So true.

I regrettably got into an emotional affair with a married woman and it was just like a fun distraction for her meanwhile she was still married and I didn’t know how to stop but it wasted a lot of my time and felt wrong and made me feel bad.

@jadegreen1554

20w↑1K

After breaking up from a toxic relationship, a narcissist for eg, its believed in professional circles that a person’s mind and system needs about a year with themselves to detox and deprogram from the person to feel somewhat whole again and to be able to engage in a relationship.

@khalflavian

20w↑45

It should be like that but unfortunately almost no one does that and that isn't to say that u can't heal with the right person

@thespiritualbadass

20w↑75

And if that person has grown up as a scapegoat in a narcissistic parental relationship, and then partnered up with someone like that, they need a whole lot longer than a year.
Very serious people will take time off to get well and detox and get those introjects out of their brain.
The unhealthy co-dependent will just continue to repeat these destructive relationships.

@TLB144

20w↑32

A lot longer

@decimusvitae

20w↑46

Narcissists can really break your mind and spirit. I don't understand people that do that sort of stuff. Every human wants to be happy. But does that really make them happy?

@jadegreen1554

20w↑21

@@decimusvitae they think about themselves alone, and their enjoyment goes to NEXT level, because they have no contradiction, no pushback in their minds or from the external telling them they have no right to do this. They cannot hear pushback, it sounds like an affront on their rights as a human being. They don’t live in reality, so they damage any mind/victim that gets too close, until and unless the victim can relearn that the twisted rights of this person is not what reality looks like.

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@shahearnest5320

19w↑130

Don't waste your time with someone who is not over their ex. It's not fair on you to be theur rebound. Just find someone who is ready to fully invest in you.

@ourlovehowerica

12w↑1

so true.

@kosmos4133

12w

I Fall more for rebounds to be honest..

@JohnPickup-CDHS-ze6qd

11w

Rebound sex is fantastic

@TMichelle555

20w↑255

Walking away is so hard especially when you like the person and you have chemistry.. but that self respect thing is so real. You don’t feel it right away but it pays off later on. PLEASE have the strength to walk away if anyone’s going through this

@Portia620

16w↑4

Truths but he needs to differentiate from a narc being so intrusive in a persons life! My one marriage was almost 30 years and he remarried and still intrudes and try’s to hang with my family (parents) parents friends and turn kids away from me…it’s truly sick! Dont we deserve a life too? We do and the right classy people understand thank God and this guy is so off and making it up as he goes! He needs to look at other situations. People could pass up a good spouse! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️.

@TMichelle555

16w↑1

@@Portia620 that’s easy, it’s a called a restraining order lmao

@lisafoster3494

12w↑1

You wont miss anything thats truly for you. After narc abuse building yourself and a life for yourself is key building with someone new should only come after that ...

@firepraiserchannel

12w

Thank you.

@cright7828

12w↑3

Amen! Just because you have chemistry with someone doesn't necessarily mean you're supposed to end up with that person long-term. Don't ignore the red (and even what I call "pink") flags because it can be so easy to do when you want a relationship to work out. You deserve someone to be head over heals about you, not just ho-hum about you.

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@ellerox101

19w↑32

I dated someone who was getting over their ex and the shock separation of their parents. I was also just out of a breakup. We liked each other and took our time. No pressure from either of us and everything was a slow burn. We've been together for 15 years now. Married for 10 and have two beautiful children. We're best friends and have a loving and understanding relationship. You can't choose when the right person comes into your life.

@alexandrabackhaus-if4gm

16w↑4

Love this. I was dating someone while getting over my crush and i knew i couldn't let him go. There was something special. We too were taking things very slow and are really happy now. Nice to hear and experience that it can work out.

@phyllis2866

20w↑119

Had to replay that last part again and again. Respect yourself, and walk away. If you love someone, let them go. And if they do not come back, then they were never meant for you anyways!!

@firepraiserchannel

12w↑1

Thank you.

@colegracia2740

8w↑1

what happens when they let you go and you try and try again but they don't let you back in. It hurts a lot. I made a bunch of mistakes and I paid the price.

@MusicAndOtherColors

7w↑1

In other words '' Run and never look back '' he he !

@weilikang5610

20w↑153

I did what you say. The man who I dated for two months. We had so much chemistry with each other. But a month ago he told me he wasn’t ready for boyfriend and girlfriend title (which hurt my feelings so much because in the past two months he was treating me with so much passion and like we were in a serious relationship) I did tell him if you are not ready I am going to create a beautiful relationship with someone else. Even though I cried so much and in pain, I blocked his phone anyway.

@user-sq3hs5su6l

19w↑21

You did the right thing, by walking away you always win. If you are meant for each over he will come back and will give you what you want, if not you are not wasting your precious time

@vaska1999

16w↑9

That guy has problems you really don't want to be exposed to. I'm so glad for you that you walked away.

@timothyhilton3408

16w↑12

Passion is not Love.. Best wishes on healing from this relationships "Pretense "of Love.

@vietnam891

14w↑4

A very cautious person may need more time. If he cannot elaborate on the reason then you are right to walk away. He can reflect and come back after some time apart. It is a win for you either way.

@andresamartins26

12w↑2

Same thing happened to me. I was feeling extremely guilty for blocking him.

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@LisaGemini

19w↑397

PREACH, Matthew. Time has nothing to do with it. I spent three years making the decision to leave a 17-year relationship. It hurt like heck but I felt relief when I finally got divorced. I agree, many people carry a torch for their ex. You shouldn't date while grieving your ex. I'm sick of separated people breaking hearts right and left because they refuse to poop or get off the pot. Ladies, don't waste your time with separated dudes. You'll get your heart broken every. Single. Time.

@ivanserna1138

19w

That’s true in any genre I dated a dismissive avoidant ex she got her heart broken by her ex I met her after Invested. In her we matched perfectly I had the most beautiful half year of relationship all came down when she felt like she was to into the relationship and started fearing commitment and her dismissive avoidant attachment style kicked in tryd my best to help but we had a unhealthy dinámic of push pull for the remaining months it was horrible I got my heart broken really bad in the end we both hurt each other the best thing we can all do men our women after a divorce our breakup take the time to heal and grow and love yourself again if not you’ll end up hurting yourself and a potential good companion in life it’s painful to grow but it’s worth it learn from the past and grow

@wulfclaw4921

19w↑28

Gents, same thing applies !

@purplerayn2992

19w↑2

Preach it girl 💯🫶🏻

@legmantillidie1030

18w

100% facts.. 80% of divorces are initiated by women.@@wulfclaw4921

@Karen-jp1ns

18w↑1

Amen!

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@Dmo12618

20w↑319

Took me 3 years to figure out this guy just wasn’t really available. I was just in his path. … now learning, growing, respecting myself. You have been so critical in my journey. Sincere Thanks. Feeling clearer and ready to get out there again. Can’t say eyes wide open, but at least they’re more wise.❤

@thematthewhussey

20w↑38

This means a lot to me. Glad I could be there for you.

@hadi20233

20w↑9

Really like how you worded your paragraph, spot on.

@Leonhart_93

20w↑17

Watch it as there are guys that just find reasons to keep you as a side piece and not take you seriously. Even if he says "he is not ready" or "I am getting over an ex", that might not be the truth and he simply knows that he doesn't want a future with you. Just go for the guys that want something serious with you without all this hesitation.

@eltern_herz

20w↑5

I feel you. same here. moved cities with kid after 2 year dating and it got quite clear he was not ready living together. but I still needed some acting out disrespecting my low boundaries before I finally cut him out of my. life

@RobertLicheli

19w↑13

3 Precious YEARS WASTED; Time Wasted is like GOLD wasted. The most Precious thing You have in YOUR ENTIRE LIFE is TIME. Do not throw your Pearls to Swines.

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@janereinhardt4715

19w↑57

After 40 years, the pain is still there, but I don't obsess about it. Life goes on, but hurt doesn't ever leave us.

@ItsAlexChords

18w↑3

You've got the spirit of a true rocker – keep playing your life's melody with courage Jane!

@wendyshoowaiching4161

12w

Time will evaporate any emotions. Just live for our happiness not for others

@alexanderx3554

12w

Completion process by teal swan

@debbylee6329

Very well said! Your post is so full of wisdom. I needed this insight, thank-you!

@helensanderson7092

20w↑29

My ex told me he was single when we first me 2 years ago. I found out he was married even when he was calling me "his girlfriend". So I made the decision to end it. Now I'm firmly single best decision I ever made

@leeboriack8054

19w↑66

Never date someone still recovering from an ex! If you are a comfort to someone recently single, you are a bandaid. When they heal they throw away the old bandaid.

@DiamondsRexpensive

12w↑1

Dam, that's true.

@Dovlaboss1992

12w

Not true, i needed love and comfort after years of emotional abuse. Found a person with which i though i would spend rest of life. She dumped me 3 months later when i needed her most...

@Imme-dn4ju

11w↑1

Yes.. I’ve just spent 6 years being a bandaid for someone.

@BloodSavedMe

11w↑3

Not always true life isn't just black and white

@christinebeames712

16w↑5

I remember when I asked my boyfriend if he was ready to get married yet , after 2 years from the first discussion about it, and he said” no, you deserve better than me” he was right of course, his next girlfriend, he married almost immediately, and after a few years together, she cleaned him out financially and demolished him mentally. Such a shame.

@katarzynamazur9481

20w↑55

Such a good moment in my personal situation, when a few weeks a guy adored me, seems to desire me but once he made me a cold shower by saying "I m a type of guy who only love once in a lifetime" (and it was with his fiance 8 y ago). Im glad he warned me from himself. Luckily I was enough strong to left him out after these words. Thanks Mat for assuring me!

@thepowerofyourtrueself4794

12w↑1

So awful to hear those words, but it gave you clarity that you deserve so much more and to feel special and not like second best, that there is no doubt you are their world. I hope you will find the right one ❤

@sweetnovember3984

20w↑34

My ex was still not over his ex after 20 years even though his ex has been married for 10 years with 3 kids. It is sick! And I was sick for falling for it. Never again! If someone is not really really deeply interested in getting to know me as a person And not investing, I do not want them. Thank you, next!

@Sidera17

20w↑13

I have run into a lot of guys who had their hearts broken by "The One" in their early 20s/college and never learned how to heal from it 10-20 years later! I think it is from a lack of men's therapy plus I think sone men may actually just romanticize the memory of an ex in order to block emotional intimacy with other women.

@mooseyman74

Men don't compare notes or get fatherly advice like girls do

@ForrestMystic

3w↑1

@@Sidera17I think humans do that. I'm a woman and I can see that I may be at risk of doing that. It's a personality type, that may skew more male.

@Sidera17

@@ForrestMystic I am a woman and I had that tendency as well when younger as well. I think you're right about it being a personality trait in part.

After many years of therapy, I learned I attach quick and take longer to get over people, which is one thing. I was also using old exes to sabotage new relationships, and that's what I had to learn to stop doing because I wanted to move forward with people.

I do get mad at the guys I've met who do this in particular because they expect to have a relationship with me but always have an imaginary 3rd wheel you're being compared to. They aren't as honest about being hung up on someone or solving it and end up dragging others into it.

I hope you are doing well out there. I'm currently trying to date again and it is... the desert.

@malabuha

20w↑10

I was with someone for two years when he started showing that he wasn't over his ex. He was going back to her. I broke it off immediately. Then he started to do that same pattern with me. But with me he stood no chance of getting back. He uses amicable behaviour towards his exes as a means to control/manipulate his current partner(s). Or something

@marinab2503

20w↑4

Called the phantom ex. It’s a dismissive avoidant trait. It’s what they do to not get too close and vulnerable with their current partner.

@trueloveconnects

19w↑28

If you’re reading this wishing you True Happiness in 2024 and beyond! You got this ❤

@ck868ck

20w↑123

Thank you for saying it's not about time. Even my best friend kept saying, you should be over him already, your relationship wasn't that long. He was a narcissist and I didn't know. I was as in love with him as I've even been in my life. He hurt me so profoundly that it almost destroyed me as a person. My heart and mind were so sick that my body got sick too. I'm just now really over him and rebuilding my body. Hearing you say it out loud was very validating. I have no interest in a relationship until I'm fully healed. But I'm educating myself in the meantime. (It's been 2+ years)

@kaoshi_kutie

20w↑9

Sounds exactly like my situation! It does get better but it’s always difficult to explain to people even the ones close to us, A narcissist is not a normal person so it’s never gonna be easy in the aftermath ❤

@AM-ut7dg

20w↑14

Please don’t listen to your friend, narcissistic abuse can really do a number on your mental health and self esteem. Take care of yourself, don’t feel ashamed for taking your time and and make note of the things that revealed his narcissism to you so that you don’t get into the same situation again

@ck868ck

20w↑2

@@AM-ut7dg I'm working on myself believe me lol it's just a relief to hear someone respected in the community say it. So few people in my immediate circle really understood and the ones that should've were the worst. They don't want to face their own pain so they didn't want to see mine either.
I've leaned allot about allot.

@ck868ck

20w

@@kaoshi_kutie (((hugs)))💖

@Liz-wz8dh

20w↑4

@@kaoshi_kutie: This is so true. Emotions and experiences with a narcissist are so amplified because they spend an exorbitant amount of their time studying how to manipulate people.

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@JukiSund

20w↑60

Damnit ! As always, video coming on perfect timing … I just got out of a situationship with someone that I thought was ready, and he himself was convincing himself he was ready too.. even if he broke up 5 month ago, we were both very serious, exclusive; talking about future .. but I think he was in denial and I believed him too fast. His ex came back and showed him how much she changed and he began to doubt again, to hesitate . Which wasn’t the case before, as he told me he was over long ago. I felt so betrayed and so in pain ; I had to let him go; he let me leave respectfully because he was so sorry that he was confused again. Now I’m left alone all by myself and can’t help but think he will surely come back if it’s not working with his ex, and this idea of being a backup plan is disgusting me so much but my ego is wounded still.
Thank you Matthew for being here ; I guess for future video it would be great to discuss about how to deal with this pain of “the potential” or “if timing wouldve be better..” ☺️

@thematthewhussey

20w↑23

I’ll bare that idea in mind for future videos!

@msigg2656

19w↑79

Point 3. I was with a man in a committed relationship for 5 years. In the third month of our exclusive dating period he said "you know we'll probably break up someday based on our past relationship history" and I stupidly chose to reject those words. Although going on 22 years since we broke up those words still resonate in my mind as though he just said them. I've never been able to fully trust a man since and no, I would not take this man back for a billion dollars. He was destructive to my core sense of self.

@johnnyxmusic

19w↑1

Do you regret having spent those five years with this person? Or do you regret it because five years didn’t turn it to 10 years?

Someone said some thing the other day… About just being happy, being in a relationship… And if it ends… Unless there was a Buser cheating or anything… That you had that time together, and that itself was the experience, and that was the reward… All of those Nell moments that you spent together.

I understand that we feel that we make an investment of emotion and we make an investment of time and somehow we want those investments to pay off… Or to produce dividends in the future, in terms of continued emotional connection, and the longevity of the relationship itself. I mean, I think that’s completely reasonable and very normal human way to feel. At the same time… As I said, what we are sharing is a series of now moments with another person. And the next moment it’s not guaranteed. The next month of life itself is not guaranteed. But we don’t shy away from living and growing

I hope you find a way to heal to move forward in your life… Loving yourself, and being content with you with another person or not. And I hope you do heal enough to be open to the possibility of another relationship, if that’s what you want.

@ItsAlexChords

18w↑6

So sorry to hear that. It sounds like those words left a deep imprint on your heart, and it's brave of you to share that. Remember, past relationships can cast a shadow, but they don't define your future. You've carried this for 22 years - such a lot of strength and resilience you've built!

@summerxwings

16w↑4

That is so hurtful and messed up wtf

@HeatherDFolks

16w↑1

I'm so sorry that you went through that.

@user-rh2yj1mh4s

15w↑2

Only about 5 months after breaking up w my college gf, I met a girl who I was very attracted to. She began to work at the bar I was going to after work almost everyday and after only the second or third time that we had talked, she began to call me her “future ex-boyfriend” which Imo

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@ericf650

12w↑4

dang, the "open wounded" one got me bad. She was going through it and just used me for validation and comfort. Thought I was special until trying to go to the next step with her. She wont even give me the time of day. I thought I was unlucky the first couple times trying to set something up... but she literally dropped everything for another man she just met and hopped on an airplane to go see him. The dude ended up just using her... me sitting over here like a dummy wanting to give her my best. Thanks for the gym motivation

@Wishpool

20w↑38

I'm late to the party, but I just noticed your wedding ring, Matthew. Congrats to you & Audrey!!! 🤵🏻👰🏻 💍
Wishing you both a lifetime of love, laughter, and loyalty! 💗

@Diarrheagod

19w↑12

Just listen to how he talks about his exes and his previous relationships. Does he play the victim? Does he make it seem like everything was their fault? Does he take any responsibility for his part? People will tell you who they are, you just have to listen.

@mooseyman74

4w↑1

Great username 😂

@ifeelprettyohsopretty806

Listen.....and believe them!

@GShockWatchFan.

20w↑48

I don't believe in this emotionally available theory. If they like you, believe me, they will move heaven and earth to be with you. If they don't, they will run. Simple things.

@pauli9667

12w↑7

So true. When they wishy washy means they dont know what they want. And they also date to have other option and to not be lonely.

@Mokimanify

11w↑3

I agree. A long time ago I thought I fell into this category until I met a girl that I really liked and my thoughts about a relationship completely changed. I wasn't clingy .. I wanted to make her happy and was genuinely interested.

@sezsimo1

20w↑19

I'm a man and I love this channels. I appreciate when the advice is generic for both men and women

@katierosecohen

20w↑16

it. just. sucks. i am completely over my narc ex but i am really realizing how psychologically screwed i am from the years of abuse. i'm really good at being alone but i'm in a severely isolated situation and after 6 months like this being alone with no one to bounce ideas off of or physically touch it is really wearing on my spirit. trying really hard, but humans arent meant to be this isolated. i really thought i was ok to entertain having a partner again but now i feel like my brain may be forever messed up. and part of me feels like the only thing that will completely undo it is having a new healthy relationship experience. ive done SO MUCH work on myself for the past 3 years and i dont know if it will ever be enough. scapegoat pain is too much.

@thepowerofyourtrueself4794

12w↑1

Having hope for a better future/connection is such a hard thing sometimes, as I am going through some pain from my past relationship, but, just take the few steps that i can see ahead of me and they will lead me into my light, the center of me, being balanced and at peace with myself, then i know I will be in my right heartspace to attract the right people in my life. Dont lose hope, you will get there in the end 🙏 ❤✨️

@itsmethebun4079

16w↑5

I actually don't agree with the part "talking about an ex". Personally I've been heartbroken and I still talk about him (not all the time ofc) but I don't love him or want to have anything to do with him. Sometimes when you feel comfortable with someone you overshare things and I think for some people that must be the case. 🙄

@hannahemory

19w↑27

I agree with what you're saying about someone being in a lot of pain. I've had two really intense connections with partners where they weren't trying to get over exes, but they were in a massive amount of personal pain. And even though they said and did things that made me feel like they were emotionally open to me, it became painfully clear that they weren't.

I felt proud of myself for how much I was able to give to them when they needed it, and how unafraid I was to be there for them, but it was also really heartbreaking when, despite everything we went through together, they ended up walking away from me and further into their pain.

It's always important to be aware of when connections with others are emoitionally unequal and how much you are willing to give to someone who is struggling. I realised that a relationship, especially a new one, is usually not the best time for someone to sort their shit out. I'd say it's probably best to either take some space from one another or decide if it's time to move on from the connection if the struggles of the other person massively outweigh their ability to reciprocate with you.

@tylamakhoul7123

20w↑21

I really wish I saw this video 3 months ago before I got ghosted. My biggest regret is that I wasn’t able to walk away myself…..instead he walked away first and probably thinks I have no respect for myself. He probably thought “wow why is she still sticking around after I told her more than once I’m not ready for a relationship and I’m emotionally unavailable, after I told her all about my ex and how badly she messed me up.” He told me these things but we would still go out, go to concerts, and I would still try and see him. Still embarrassed about how it ended to this day.

@PrativaGovender

20w↑2

Don't be embarrassed, it will be ok :)

@miriamsmith1686

20w↑4

Don't worry. It happens to the best of us. I was seeing a guy for 3 weeks, and in the beginning, things were good. Fast forward, he told me he still had feelings for his ex, and I hardly said anything and walked away. Completely cut contact with him after that. I wish I would have sooner, but he was just so great in the beginning. Just be thankful that you know now before having invested so much into someone. I felt like a complete fool when he told me he still had feelings for his ex. It's never a good idea to ruin your future for someone from your past.

@tylamakhoul7123

19w↑1

@@miriamsmith1686 yea it’s a horrible feeling especially when everything’s so good in the beginning. Craziest thing is I’d been seeing him since October of last year😭 we’d developed a sort of friendship and then a year later he just cuts me off w/ no explanation lol

@martinastefani2483

18w↑6

Believe me, being the one to walk away doesn't really do anything for your pride.. I was seeing a man, at the beginning everything was perfect, he was so into me, and fast forward to 3 months later I was practically the only one trying to meet up or text or call. I had enough after 3 days of silence (at the beginning we always texted Goodmorning/goodnight) and I decided to walk away, and he let me, just saying that this was a very difficult moment for him - suggesting maybe a more casual thing: I said no immediately, realizing he probably was never really into me to begin with. I can't tell you how many red flags I ignored in order to keep dating him, believe me. So even if I was the one to say "this isn't working, I feel ignored by you, thank you and goodbye" I really feel like I was the one discarded, as he basically was waiting for me to make that move. I feel so rejected and embarassed, because I really liked him.

@StargazerLily82

19w↑60

This is great. The last guy that I dated was so toxic and I didn't even realize that even though I'm a therapist. He was separated and not quite divorced yet, and every time he would think of her or hear something that reminded him of her, he would start crying. When I told him I didn't think he was ready to move on he would get nasty with me and then tell me that I didn't know what I was talking about because I hadn't been in a 23-year marriage. So yeah.

@UnfazedPhoenix

19w↑15

You're a therapist and didn't realize those glaringly obvious things... that is genuinely scary. Scary in the sense that maybe the profession you're in isn't quite right...

@Jonboners

19w↑22

@@UnfazedPhoenix anyone can be fooled since human beings aren't infallible. Incredibly ignorant comment.

@UnfazedPhoenix

19w↑6

@Jonboners sure. However, the situation described is a mess from the start. It's just a bit concerning that someone with training in human psychology couldn't see the giant red flag. Maybe they saw it and chose to ignore it, or there's more context. So I see your point, yes.

@carriefawcett9990

19w

Wow, what a fucking maggot! You dodged a bullet

@annetteka

19w↑1

vouch for credibly ignorant. Their point hits hard and sure feels dismissive at first butt.. in~ followed by in~ ain’t just whambam doublentendre but(t) in-frowns on our innate autre. However off piste any “professional” might be, re-presentation resides within. So does the right to speak ones’ truth. To dare for all. Easier said than done..

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@lebeautyprenuer3679

19w↑6

I still talk about past relationships and I’m way past my exes. It was when I wasn’t over them that I couldn’t talk about them

@maribellama

5w↑2

Yes, this is absolutely true. I was in a relationship for 9 years.. but when I finally decided that I had enough, i had already give many 2nd chances... The last months of the relationship was just a save my heart and move on.. so I moved on quite easily even though I had to still communicate for some practical reasons because the person was still living in my house..

@WeAreAllAlexJones2023

16w↑4

I am guilty as charged. I have been the person who couldn't get over my ex, hoping I would find that magic with someone else but it didn't happen so I let them know as early as I could and let them move on.

@jmr1703

19w↑9

This is so right. I just dodged a potential bad attachment with someone who is still raw from his divorce. While I had a wonderful time the few days, I knew the timing was off. There is no way he could make room in his heart for what I'm ready for now. I let him come to the decision and thanked him for stepping aside. I'm so grateful for the experience. I think I needed the experience and he helped me reopen my heart that I closed off. It's not easy because Im a loving woman but letting go opens me up to see the person who is meant to be present in my life.

@karencrawford5491

19w↑7

Its been years, 35 to be exact since my husband and I divorced. I was left with 5 children to support. I Can't seem to get over how I believed the lies, welcomed in his old school friend who later walked off with him. It made me feel so vulnerable and if I'm honest a tad cynical. I have always been a bit of a polyanna but now it Seems I was just turning a blind eye. Mostly because I couldn't understand what was going on. I feel stupid and gullible and still cry about things that pop up in my memory. I loved him so much, I didn't really check to see if I was being loved back. The trauma it has caused my children is devastating and I live with the consequences daily as they seem unable to form a meaningful healthy relationship. How do you recover from that? I feel broken and like a spoke is missing from our family wheel.

@colettespencer3357

18w↑1

Hypnotherapy

@toribot1768

12w

Workout live a longer

@LostSoulSearching

19w↑35

This wisdom doesn't just apply to a past "personal" relationship but I can see how the crap in my past as a whole can mess up my relationships with others as a whole.

I love this explanation and advice. 100% on point. I don't want to be a toxic person to another bc I am fked up from things that broke me.

@Portia620

16w

Now that sounds like a better video because he misses the toxic ex that will not allow the ex to move forward with his food in the door stating he loves her family yet he’s remarried. 5 years growing form narcissistic bs and the right person will understand. Being around toxicity makes us sick and toxic for sure if we don’t redirect the stress.

@Portia620

16w

Ps. We are not broke. We have reactive abuse from the manipulation and bs we endured! Not sure we ever heal from insidious abuse and betrayal along with gaslighting but we are far from broken!

@Sunshine....

20w↑7

I'd always be the shoulder that was used to cry on and I used to be so confused coz they shared their deepest/ darkest stuff with me and then how could they walk away.

@larryly3613

11w↑1

Walking away from an avoidance type, i completely agree. But walking away from a secure type? Maybe not? You have to work with them to show them a better way?

@blaireofhylia1572

19w↑3

I'm autistic and I absolutely refuse to speak ill of my past ex's. Anybody that needs me to hate people I used to love to be with me cab screw off, and I'm not going to lie about my feelings, ever.

@lechehabi

19w↑7

Wow, that was exactly me. When you're in it you don't really see all of that, or you just choose to ignore it until you learn the hard way.

@rodono23

20w↑37

Man, the last part hit me so hard. I now know what I need to do. Just walk away. Thank you, Mathew!

@Shaunashares

5w↑1

Mathew you are literally saving me during my time of excruciating pain of traveling across the world for someone who broke up with me once I'd arrived and seen them 💔

@KarmaCifer

I recently went through a break up and I'm trying to process things and I'm all you are describing. I feel the urge to seek comfort, without really wanting to connect with anyone else. If my ex changes I would absolutely go back.

So I'm trying to not rush into meeting new people until I truly get over it, but every day is hell and pain in this stage of grief. I now understand the meme about the weak moment of wanting to text your ex late at night. It's hard to not act crazy and try to keep your dignity.

@CBReal1290

19w↑23

This was a really good one because it emphasizes the importance to really listen to those very very early conversations that are had between yourself, and a person potential interest

@Portia620

16w

If they were with a narc they don’t leave. My narc is remarried and highly toxic and I can’t move on becsue of the drama as he is infiltrated in my family and I could literally write a book and he said he would be eating Thanksgiving dinner with my parents, and he’s remarried. They have no boundaries they want to destroy you when you’re with the children they do things weird it is so messed up and how do we move on. I have a lot of guys that wanna date me the problem is who wants to deal with this crap? It’s getting better but toxic people never wanna leave. They are truly sick and I haven’t spoke to him in years and even when the children go to see him, I don’t even go out the door to look at them. I don’t know who that person is I was married to a man.

@Portia620

16w↑1

A con man

@allmarknobite8726

20w↑128

Points well taken, Matt, especially with respect to "time since the breakup" as a variable that can't be taken at face value. It took years for me to acknowledge that my marriage had gone dormant well before we decided to split. We were both "over it" emotionally by the time we actually chose to officially end it. On that day, it was an altogether civil conversation, eerily similar to a business transaction, which speaks volumes about the state of things. We'd been on autopilot for lack of a better flight plan.

@henrycooper4213

19w↑6

But why would you spilt? A marriage is not based upon teenage intensity love. It is a unity between and man and a woman a lifelong one to raise a family and work through issues. But to always stay together. Not divorced people who never re marry successfully which is like 85% always regret getting divorced when they are old and alone. People seem to think physical attraction will always be there? Old men and old women don’t suddenly stop finding young men and women attractive because they are older. People need to change the way they think.

@ainnunyabidniz

19w

@@henrycooper4213 probably because they'd become strangers to each other and they just weren't interested in trying to get to know each other all over again

@inabind416

17w↑2

@@henrycooper4213There aren’t many people that give marriage the proper honor, intention, and thought that it should have. Unfortunately.

@allmarknobite8726

17w

@@henrycooper4213 While I'll not discuss the particulars, just know that despite the best efforts of all concerned, the relationship failed over time. We can only connect the points of failure in hindsight. IOW, we can sound prescient today, but roll that back ten years and we didn't see it coming.

@Christine-wu9tx

15w↑1

Agreed, generally I've moved on quickly because I was already processing the end while in the relationship

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@MH-wd1gu

20w↑81

This hit so close to home for me as I have recently walked away from a relationship where my ex was not over her ex. We were together for a year and they would show signs that they are still very emotionally attached to their ex and wanted to keep having “friendship” even though I have expressed my discomfort around it. They showed no signs of progression, or effort to get over their ex, so I decided to walk away. I was hoping they would eventually get over their ex and be fully emotionally available one day but I wasn’t gonna wait around any longer. Thanks to Matthew I was able to have self respect and self care and have the courage to leave. I cannot thank you enough for the work you do!! 😊 I’m a gay woman but your content is still very relevant regardless of gender.

@ArtByDianaToma

15w↑4

You did a fantastic job in your videos addressing all reasons to walk away. Because of so much content on this, I would even say some of us have become almost too wary of red flags. Can you talk more about green flags and what things make a good idea to keep pursuing a relationship in early stages? It would be very helpful to address more of the dealmakers rather than keep pointing out the dealbreakers, so we can build a solid frame of reference for healthy positive relationships and shift the focus on what does work

@kimperes5987

I love your comment!! I could use some positive reinforcement myself!

@stayitive4343

20w↑4

No relationship with someone still angry with ex or calls ex crazy and wants you as their therapist (they never want or dismiss interest in listening about you)

@oleksandraromanova4397

20w↑60

Thank you for this video Matt. I watched it from another position: I'm actually that person who broke up recently and wants to build new healthy relationship. You video provided a valuable set of questions for me:
1) Am I really over my ex husband?
2) Do I have my face turned to the past pain or to the future... unpredictability?
3) Do I really want a new relationship?
4) If my ex changed, would it be possible to turn things back?

And the answers showed me that I'm in the beginning of a brand new path, not in the end of the old one 💚

@thematthewhussey

20w↑19

I love that you took it from this perspective. Really cool.

@b.maaouiamarwa7798

20w↑6

I am in the beginning of a new path, I am open to all the new possibilities provided by the universe, I healed, I see my scars as a reminder of learned lessons and I am not scared of them anymore, I would never ever return to what broke me and I accept the whole new Journey with peace and love 🤍

@isabellableu97

19w↑1

@@b.maaouiamarwa7798
🌬️🤍YOU, GOT THIS!!!!!

@janebraun4482

20w↑30

This is a great reminder to admit to ourselves when someone is not emotionally available. It helps to figure out why if possible. I did not catch his drift, why he strings me along without us ever really getting together or advancing. He wrote he was not getting along with his wife, and I was like, huh, you are divorced for 20 years! Much later someone helped me realize plus me connecting the dots that he's one of these rare cases of getting back with the ex, without renewing their vows, but still, this explains it for me. So legally he is available, but emotionally he is not.

@curaturable

17w

Cowards do that
"Friendy" mind set with exes
Never fully available for next person down the road braking other partners heart it's dishonest evil people do that

@nashia_haq

18w↑3

5 years after dating, we are planning to get married next year. Suddenly he mentioned abt his friends(girls) who were falled for him in different times(with some old regrets😅)!

& I have said what I should do.. just finish your old strings, then come for marriage.😅 I just had to do it.. I don't want half of him..damn it! I want his best self only for me.

@HumanityRisingNow

19w↑5

Wise insights Matthew and I appreciated your nuanced approach, for example, in saying that you don’t think it’s realistic to expect someone to be completely over the pain of a break-up before opening themselves up to love again.

@amalia251093

20w↑18

I love this man and how he explains things, it makes so much sense ❤

@imagine_that_4335

20w↑7

Wow Matthew, really timely seeing this tonight. Thank you SO so much. Very helpful and I needed to hear it 😢

@northshorelight35

20w↑20

Don't bother getting entangled with someone who can't make up their mind. Trust me, whoever gets them will find themselves on an emotional roller coaster ride anyways. About two years ago an old flame pursued me just as my marriage was coming to an end. Since I had history with him, I couldn't fully trust him from the beginning. But he love bombed me hard and made it seem like he had changed. Well it's year two and I'm ready to for the next level to happen after loads of conversations about our "supposed future". Then I discover that his ex is still in his energy. Now this woman was on and off again for about 10 years after we split 20 years ago. I don't want to end up like her, being played with. This guy started ghosting me in October. I can't put up with this like her. She did it for 10 years and counting. I don't think they're officially back together but he is using her to get back on his feet. She is allowing it, so...oh welps.

@Liz-wz8dh

20w↑5

I bet you will feel so much better when you just close that door and move on to the next chapter of your life.

@sharicoburn5475

20w↑3

Once you go no contact he will hoover you. Ignore it. It's hard, I've had to do it but in the end it's the best for you

@patriciadesousa7848

15w↑1

Great video! I recently broke up from a relationship with someone who’s separated but haven’t file for the divorce. Kept me as a secret and never introduced me to no one. I finally got tired of waiting for him. It’s only been six days but I am a 100% this was the best decision. I want someone who’s sure about me and is not stuck in their passe

@kellyannnoonan2674

20w↑33

It’s taken me years to get over a toxic relationship but I had other things to get over too. With matthew’s help I’ve rebuilt my life and going on another first date on Tuesday. You have to do the work on yourself to become whole again.
I’ve taken part in two/three retreats with Matthew. The last I spent tucked away in my room very unwell with Covid 😢
Please say hi to your incredible team and give Jameson a hug for me. ❤ love you all and have a wonderful Christmas. xxx

@DeadCat-42

18w↑2

As a man , i knew when i got my pink slip from work id soon lose my wife.

It took years to revover and even though i found a better job and a new house i cannot get over the feeling thar im only worth what i provided and was never loved for myself

My friends all went through the same thing, most of them fortunately got to keep thier children and have zero contact with thier ex. Im a bit sad i never got the chance to be a father, but im not willing to risk everything again.
.

@anthonyr7208

19w↑25

If you’re dating someone who is friends with an ex…RUN and RUN FAST…..they are still emotionally connected….

@curaturable

17w↑3

Absolutly right
If stay they will hurt on process

@gigibtsurvivor3348

That is a possibility. However, there are a lot of factors to consider: how long ago? How long was the relationship? How often they still talk/see each other?

Regardless, as long as there are boundaries to protect your relationship and the ex partner is a friend of the relationship, not just the former partner.

@creatureofstyle

That was my mistake. In my defense I didn't agree to go out with him until she was planning to move away, but I didn't wait for that to actually occur so that's on me (and of course it never happened). She stuck around and I ended up feeling like the third wheel in my own relationship

@luckywright7285

6w↑2

Naw, I'm pretty good friends with half of my exes. I dated each of them when I didn't know what I was looking for, So I just dated women that I thought of as good friend neither party has any desire to get back with each other or sleep with each other.

I'm not saying that in general you aren't correct, but if I've learned anything from Matt's channel over the years, it's that these type of blanket statements are usually more revealing of our own hurt rather than them being 100% true.

That said, wishing us both luck on both of our journeys!

@creatureofstyle

@@luckywright7285 I think you are the exception to the rule. Many men don't get over their exes and start dating again even though they're not emotionally available. I've dated 3 men in my life that were so hung up on their ex that our relationship ended up being miserable and died quickly... 2 of those men weren't even still talking to their ex 🙃 Take that situation and add a physically present ex and your relationship with them is dead before it even starts

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@Smilexx97

19w↑4

Damn man, I would've needed this video 3 months ago. I just dated this great woman for 2,5 months, starting to fall in love and then found out she is everything but emotional available, which broke my heart. Everything was so great, but she is not ready for a new relationship after being single for just 6 months now.

@MarieJackszis

20w

Thank you Mathew, I really needed this video today to end this strange situation... its oftentimes so blurry to see through. I am very grateful for your advice.

@erinsaunders898

20w↑24

Such a great message Matthew! Thank you for posting this, this was very much needed for me. ❤

@ellie-tk4jy

19w↑2

Have no idea. He mentioned his ex used him as a rebound. When I heard that I said "do you need to maybe be with more people before you settle down again?" He very much dismissed that idea. I'm not sure.

@susanmunroe2049

19w

Best video ever! I wish I had done this for myself. I would have saved 7 months of his narcissistic behavior and then 1 year of detoxing from his abuse and shedding so many tears.

@MillerOrna

17w

Matthew, I have been waiting for this video!!!!! You finally explained my situation I’ve been in to the final detail. I’ve been used and was made to believe I was the greatest love of this man I dated for 1.5 years. He talked about marriage, travel, even a child at the late age of over 50. He sold me on the “forever and ever” dream. Until he finally uttered those words…that if he could fix his marriage he would want to remain with his wife. That was all I needed to hear to finally get it. Thank you Matthew!!! Your words could not be more true!!! This video nailed it for me, and I am sure for many more woman.

@hienienguyen6766

16w↑2

this sounds very good points that you have made. communication is key in a relationship. It does take time for people to get over the past. When people get connected with others there has to be something that works together in order for it to work.

@jc_yadigg

19w↑4

for me personally heartbreak can stem from factors that the relationship had nothing to do with. my most recent situation was only three months. when I look back on it we barely even really got to know each other. I was devastated when it didn't work out. Mind you I had a previous 8 year relationship before this, and it didn't hurt nearly as bad as this one.

What made this super short relationship hurt more than any others leading up to it is what I allowed myself to attach to it when it ended. I was flooded with thoughts of maybe I'm just meant to be alone, maybe I don't deserve love, maybe I'm not good enough, the common denominator is me so clearly I'm the problem.

@marianamalfaro

19w

You always manage to hit me with something FRESH, and beautifully thoughtful/insightful!!! Sending your team, and YOU much love!

@heyart3668

19w

I really like you, Matthew. Thank you for existing. I needed to hear that, and now I'm finally fine.

@alexandergray5977

15w

This video helped me realize why my last attempt at a relationship failed and now I feel so much better

@adamh7947

19w↑2

I didn't even have to watch this video to know the answer to this. If a man or woman mentions their ex and how they are still attached or not over the person, they are NOT into you. When a man or woman is really into you, they will reveal almost nothing that would come in the way of the relationship.

@elskar1

20w↑3

Perfect timely reminder thank you Matt!🙏🙏

@lessismore5706

20w↑2

I think you need time to recover and rebuild yourself but also learn how to take your time getting to know another and to recognize the signs/red flags in order to avoid a repeat with another to manipulative.

@sushmitabhattacharjee7080

20w

Thank you sir for going through deep insight about heart broken topic. I really appreciate it. I agree heart broken can be very painful ending but where is ending there is birth of new beginning sometimes we need to believe that whatever happens there is reason behind it. I know a couple they where in love with each other very much but unfortunately the relationship didn't work for certain reason . But they realise later though it didn't work for them but instead they became really good friends for each other. Now both are happy in their respective place.

@michellemcmillin2696

17w↑2

Ahhhh ! Oh I so Needed to hear this ❤❤❤ I LOVE you Matt❤ ! ALWAYS GREAT INFO !! I DID WALK . MADE ME SO SAD. BUT I FELT LIKE IT WAS THE RIGHT THING TO DO . SO MUCH MORE TO THIS STORY.😢

@Nisabehere

19w

Matthew , you always giving us really wisest and smart idea how to date and seeking a good relationship. Thank you.

@therapytimewithjen

20w↑2

Omg Matthew!!….this video popped up for me as I’m waiting for my emotionally unavailable ex to stop over! He hit me up about 30 minutes ago! This is perfect timing. And…..11 is my number and I was the 111th thumbs up 🤯! Made me cry.

@karolinah12

10w

Matthew you are a life saver for many ,thank you truly 🙏🏼

@garden2356

17w↑1

Liked, subscribed, shared.
Very good advice.
Your education, applies to many areas in life and not just courtship.
Thank you so very much for your video.
Life saving.

@33Jenesis

19w↑1

I find that many who were freshly out of a relationship and then hurrying into a new one are the type who want to be loved while having the new love to be a free therapist to listen him/her talking about the dearly departed.

@tanja3703

16w

I recognize the personalities of a few i know in your discussion. It's good of you to share a gentle reminder of characters most of us need to avoid. At least a few words, or actions to pay particular attention to.

@charlenewallmark1187

19w

Wow…all I can say is WOW!! This is my very experience, right now! Incredibly unnerving and helpful.

@naqeebhussain1516

20w↑53

Despite being rejected by my crush because of a wide age gap between the two of us, I am unable to get over her. I had planned for us to get married and have a great life together. As it turned out, that was nothing but a fantasy. Your videos are helpful in navigating this challenging phase of life.

@KatiesArabVision

20w↑3

How large was the gap and who was the older one? The guy I’ve been seeing is 30 years older than me and I’m crazy about him and it’s mutual.

@bodaciousmo

20w↑10

If someone is that obsessed, a woman’s most peaceful and safe exit can be something factual that can’t be changed. Sounds like she isn’t into it (crush to me means they didn’t date) and him using “rejection” shows he will hold onto it for a long time. I hope he leaves her alone.

@seizuregirlllll

20w↑10

That’s called Limerence, looks into it

@bobostyle1996

20w↑3

@@bodaciousmo did you realize all that from one comment?

@bl7817

20w

Sounded reasonable to me. @@bobostyle1996

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@yana_michurina

17w↑1

Basically, bringing up their ex is a huge red flag. Especially complaining or comparing you to them

@mooseyman74

That's something my ex would say

@Anastasia.mckirnan

Wow this is so helpful! He’s so not over his ex but it’s so easy to be like “he’s husband material” cuz he was showing up like that. 😱🤯 not ready

@MysticSunflowers-2269

17w

Heck yes..!!!
This is so true . And why I simply let him go for good....

@nicelydone9776

19w↑3

If you hear, "I don't want to hurt, you..." or "I chose you, but don't want to hurt so, and so..." That person either wants you to stay in his life, but you are on the back burner, or they want to keep that person in their life.

If you hear a guy say "I am interested in you but not your kids." They are not truly interested in you. They are using the kids as an excuse, but it is 100% you they don't want. So don't be a Susan Smith.

@freyavalentina3153

19w↑9

The guy I'm dating told me how hot his ex was before we actually started dating. I thought that was very strange. Why would he tell me something like that? Trying to make me jealous? Not over her? ugh...

@sunnykhan5451

12w↑1

He likes you a lot it means what else lol he just told you his ex whome he had a relationship with, she was just like you...

@sarahthoni8046

20w↑5

Took me 10 years to get over my ex. And it was finally possible because I did a family constellation (after the German Psychotherapist Bert Hellinger). Amazing!!!

@82rufiojo

20w

This is perfect timing. I needed this video.

@glantern3

20w

I figured that out 40 years ago. Great you caught up !

@frankogecevic5061

12w

You confirmed me my beliefs. God bless you.

@miks3859

20w

...especially exiting toxic, manipulative, full, long relations...like I can so comprehend why some may take a really lengthy time to heal and jus' be themselves again...yuh know...whaw...it's such a delicate process to find one's way out of...provided that they are surrounded by loving, honest , persons that want the best for their well being...

@cfatv-gp4ye

“Idk what’s true anymore” 👀 that’s my life slogan now 💀🩷

@anitarogers2877

19w

11:10 mark: 'the essentual' = 💯%! Yes, Matt, absolutely. Thank you. Much Love, Anita xxx 😊.

@DA_youtub3

20w

This is so good ! Look fwd to the next ones about the deep work... and being uninterested if someone isn't interested in me

@TheZGALa

17w

I don't want my ex, but am still processing the hurt and betrayal, now more than 3 years since the last time we spoke. I feel closer to processing it than I was, I want to move forward, but I don't know how I will ever trust anyone again. He was 'separated', and what a fool I was/am. I don't know how to process it on my own. Thank you for the work you do, Matthew.

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