Rough Lover
Aretha Franklin Lyrics


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Now, listen here, girls
I'm gonna tell you
What I want right now

I want a rough lover
I want a man
I want a rough, tough lover
And I'll find him if I can

He's got to bite nails
Fight bears
And if I get sassy
Be a man who dares

To shut me up and kiss me
So I know he cares
I want a man

Don't want a mean daddy
I want a boss
I want a mean, sweet daddy
Who the devil wouldn't cross

He's got to spit fire
Chew iron
Get mad and start roaring
Like a mountain lion

Then whisper that he loves me
So I know he's mine
I want a man

I'm looking for a guy
Who's big and strong
But weak for me

I'm looking for a guy
Who'll ride around
But never, never set me free

I want a rough lover
I want a man
I want a rough, tough lover
With a sentimental plan

So he can kiss nice
Hug tight
He's gotta be sweet and gentle
Day and night

But mean enough to make me
Want to treat him right
I want a man, oh, yeah

I'm looking for a guy
Who's raving strong
But weak for me

I'm looking for a guy
Who'll ride around
But never, never set me free

I want a rough lover
I want a man
I want a rough, tough lover
With a sentimental plan

So he can kiss nice
Hug tight
He's gotta be sweet and gentle
Day and night

But mean enough to make me
Want to treat him right
I want a man

I want a man
I don't want no creampuff, baby
Don't want no butterfly
I want a man





Oh, yes, I do
Oh, yes, I do

Overall Meaning

In the song "Rough Lover," Aretha Franklin sings about her ideal man. She wants a rough, tough lover who is not afraid of taking on any challenge, including fighting bears and biting nails. However, despite his rough exterior, she wants him to be sweet and gentle with her, yet mean enough to make her want to treat him right. She doesn't want a "creampuff" or a "butterfly," but a boss who will make her feel protected and loved. She wants a man who is both strong and weak for her and who will never set her free.


The lyrics of "Rough Lover" reflect the changing times of the 1950s and '60s when women were starting to assert their independence and demand equality with men. Aretha's bold lyrics about wanting a man who is rough and gentle at the same time reflect a newfound desire for men who were not just strong and dominant, but also loving and caring.


Line by Line Meaning

Now, listen here, girls
The singer is addressing a group of women.


I'm gonna tell you
The singer is about to share something with them.


What I want right now
The singer is going to reveal her immediate desires.


I want a rough lover
The artist desires a partner who is rough and assertive.


I want a man
The artist desires a male partner.


I want a rough, tough lover
The singer is emphasizing her desire for a partner who is rough and assertive.


And I'll find him if I can
The singer is determined to find a partner who meets her desired attributes.


He's got to bite nails
The artist is looking for a partner who is tough and strong-willed.


Fight bears
The artist wants a partner who is fearless and can handle any challenge.


And if I get sassy
The artist acknowledges that she can be difficult at times.


Be a man who dares
The singer needs a partner who can confront her when she is being difficult.


To shut me up and kiss me
The artist wants a partner who can silence her with a kiss.


So I know he cares
The singer wants the physical affection to show that her partner genuinely cares for her.


Don't want a mean daddy
The singer does not desire a partner who is cruel to her.


I want a boss
The singer desires a partner who can take charge and lead the relationship.


I want a mean, sweet daddy
The artist wants a partner who is assertive but still kind to her.


Who the devil wouldn't cross
The artist wants a partner who is intimidating and respected by others.


He's got to spit fire
The singer is looking for a partner who is passionate and intense.


Chew iron
The singer wants a partner who is powerful, unstoppable, and unbeatable.


Get mad and start roaring
The artist desires a partner who can stand up for himself and become aggressive when needed.


Like a mountain lion
The artist is describing the fierceness of the partner she wants.


Then whisper that he loves me
The artist wants her partner to show affection and tell her that he loves her.


So I know he's mine
The singer wants the verbal affirmation to confirm the partner's commitment.


I'm looking for a guy
The artist is reiterating her search for a partner.


Who's big and strong
The singer wants a burly and physically capable partner.


But weak for me
The singer wants her partner to be emotionally vulnerable with her.


Who'll ride around
The singer is describing her partner's adventurous side.


But never, never set me free
The artist wants her partner to be committed to their relationship and never abandon her.


With a sentimental plan
The artist wants her partner to be romantic and thoughtful.


So he can kiss nice
The singer wants her partner to be gentle and passionate when kissing her.


Hug tight
The singer desires an affectionate partner who will embrace her tightly.


He's gotta be sweet and gentle
The artist wants a tender and caring partner.


Day and night
The artist wants her partner's affection and attention constantly.


But mean enough to make me
The artist desires a partner who is assertive and challenging.


Want to treat him right
The singer wants to be a respectful and caring partner in return.


I want a man, oh, yeah
The artist reiterates her desire for a male partner.


I don't want no creampuff, baby
The singer wants a partner who is strong and assertive, not weak.


Don't want no butterfly
The singer wants a partner who is not delicate or fragile.


Oh, yes, I do
The singer emphasizes her desire for a rough and assertive partner.




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